WS is firm on going through with the divorce.

(See Just Found Out and GQII for details. I haven't figured out how to link without losing what I wrote.)

She explained that she just can't be married to me anymore, but she wants to keep things as normal as possible for our son. She felt trapped. She's looking at divorce forms now. We'll split everything up financially. We've already figured out where our son will be through the summer. She's friendly when we talk and keeps asking me if I'm OK, and I tell her politely no, but I'll survive. She makes quite a bit more money than me (but we're both well compensated). She's concerned that I can still stay in our house and has proposed sharing some of the burden. She has said she wants to make sure the kids lives are disrupted as little as possible. If we have any complications, I have a lawyer that's been recommended in case I need one.

When I visit I'll stay in the apartment, and we'll do things together. She even suggested having me sleep in her bed, but nothing would happen. WHY SHOULD I NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT? I'm sleeping in the guest room.

She thinks maybe we can have a better relationship when we're not married, and maybe we can start dating again. "Who knows,maybe we'll get married again one day", she says.

HAS ANYONE ELSE HEARD THIS BEFORE?????

OUTCOME?? (Actually a previous boss of mine had two wedding anniversarys. He and his wife were divorced for two years and then got married again.)


I'm not taking her back unless she's willing to change some behavior.

We'll do some things together. I assume I will just keep it polite and not give her any of the extra attention I would give my wife. I do have the problem of being human and she is incredibly good looking, but that's not what I want.

Is it that hard to find someone to love and have them love you back? How do you keep from closing your heart? Halfway through 'Surviving an Affair.' Now I need the one that says 'Surviving the Divorce'. I'll pick up Dr. Dobson's book too. I've always wanted to read it anyway. I have a phonecall into a counselor too.

OM is still out of picture for now. I'm going to pick up his stuff when I go over next week and ship it to him. He is apparently not responding to her E-Mails anymore.

My supervisors at work are sad for me, and have offered to help however they can.

Do I still pursue the job in Europe, or stay put. Am I even in Plan B anymore?

My Oldest son called today to ask how things were going. I told him not good, but I didn't give him details. Youngest son calls it the D- word.

{{{{sleepless}}}}} So sorry you're here. I didn't check your other posts, but I wanted to welcome you. The books you're reading/planning to read are good and counselling's a good idea as well. Your W sounds like she's still in the fog. Even if OM is gone, it sounds like she's not over him. How long has it been?

Two weeks on Friday. I keep saying, at least no one is dying. You should check my history though. It's a pretty good story. See the Just Found out section. What a Soap Opera!

I just finished burning a CD of songs to pick me up depress me depending on the song.

Good night all!

Hi sleepless, I just read your story in the Just Found Out section and, you're right, quite a soap opera! Two weeks is not long enough to get over OM. Is she still in contact with OM? Are you in Plan B (I saw that mentioned in other post)?

I relate to the drama and the much younger OP. My H is 52 and OW is 26. WH and I owned and ran a business together, which I'm now running alone. I'd heard rumors for several years about WH and young, married employee but dismissed them because he denied them and she's unattractive physically, not very bright, with abrasive personality. Unfortunately, I found out rumors were true when he left and moved in with her. I found out yesterday that MOW is not only pregnant, but ready to deliver any day...

Why don't you post your song list. I might need it myself!

I guess I'm in plan A until she files divorce paperwork. My 8 year old doesn't know details yet. My wife cannot be in more contact than E-Mail. She's been really friendly as we discuss how to split our finances. We have three properties and other assets. Here's my song list
The theme changes along the way./

Yes! - Chad Brock
Accidentally in Love - Counting Crows (Shrek II)
It Had to Be You - Tony Bennett (F.Sinatra Not Available)
Forever and Ever Amen - Randy Travis
Since I fell For You - Natalie Cole/Reba McIntyre
All the Way - Frank Sinatra
In the Wee Small Hours of the Morning - UNK Artist
Someone to Watch Over Me - Unknown - Older version
Ain't Misbehavin' - Unknown Blues/Jazz singer
All of Me - Louis Armstrong
Stormy Weather - Lena Horn
Amazing Grace
Just a Closer Walk With Thee - Charlie Daniels!
No Better Place - Steven Curtiss Chapman
Dive - Steven Curtiss Chapman
The Great Adventure - Steven Curtiss Chapman
Mr. Mom - Lonestar
LaGrange - ZZ top
Give Me All Your Lovin' - ZZ top

Enjoy!