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My WH filed for divorce today almost 3 months past D-Day and 2-1/2 months past my trying to save our marriage and his not trying. I have 3 small boys - WH plans to be there for them. I feel so hollow. I'm 39 and have been married for 20 years. In my state there is a 6-month waiting period but as far as my WH is concerned, our marriage is over now.
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Have you done any counseling or read any of the books MB puts out? There is still hope if you try some of these....
Keep posting. I'm new here but there are some wise words on past threads and from posters here now.
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Hi W&S. Yes - I read several of the MB books and attended counseling alone. My h would not do either - he said he had his mind made up. I also did a pretty good Plan A up until his first appt. with his lawyer about 2 weeks ago... I truly feel like I gave it 100% to save our marriage but my WH would not budge a millimeter on his decision to file divorce. He has systematically moved ahead - and very quickly - with moving into an apartment, dividing our liquid assets and filing for D. I reached out to him repeatedly during this time to no avail.
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I'm sad with you. I just finished reading His Needs/Her Needs... which had interesting section on affairs.
Keep posting we are reading them.
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My husband told me 2 nights ago that he is thinking of separating. Our D-day was Oct. 31. I started counceling Nov.1st and I also consulted a
lawyer. I got all my financial ducks in order. I've not worked in 8 years, but luckily even though I always resented having a pre-nup, I'm going to be ok. You have to protect your kids now. Go to a lawyer immediately. Protect yourself. Get any evidence. He has manipulated you and is far ahead of the game. I've read all the books..they helped some, but my therapist did not feel that the no contact agreement right off the bat was reasonable and she was right. She has helped me get on medication, go to Codependency meetings and get legal support.
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