I did it! I am very proud of myself! :)I FINALLY did something to move forward...I am relieved and sad...sad because it has come to this and the man hasn't got a clue! He wouldn't "get it" if it bit him in the butt! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

anyway, just wanted to update everyone! Thanks for ALL of your support!

I love all my MB friends here! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Good for you. Now, getting the papers served ... got your plan for that?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Bellevue:
<strong> Good for you. Now, getting the papers served ... got your plan for that? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He will be served in max two days...I dont have to do a thing except sit back and watch! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Good for you!!! Sending you lots of happy thoughts <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Good for you. Tough, but the right decision.

I'll be checking in to see how things went. Honestly, you fought hard for your marriage. You didn't give up easily. What were you supposed to do - encourage a Second Wife before the First Marriage was ended?
Courage. (Which I know you DO have.)

Mom,

I didn't respond on your other thread as I've decided right now I'm not the best person to be giving advice.

But you've tried and given it your all. Right now, I think you made the right decision. I've struggled with the same "what if's" that you mentioned in your other thread. And yes, I do still care about and think about my XH frequently.

I'm not always sure I made the right decision--I may never be.

But there is one thing I am very sure of: My life is SO much more peaceful than it was a year ago when I was still married and was being tormented by it all. I don't miss the nights wondering what they were doing or what he was saying to her. I don't miss trying to figure out if he was lying or truthful when he said over and over "I'm working on it LL--just back off!" I don't miss all those times when he had me believing that I was the nutty one.

Your road to DV probably won't be easy. Even mine--which started out with us both agreeing that we would get along during the process--took some really ugly turns.

But you are a very strong woman!! I've seen it in the many posts of yours that I've followed through the months. You will do fine, and I'm pretty certain you will find a peace that you haven't had in some time now.

LL