Hi ...

Can anyone give me advice or opinion on this. I have a sister whose husband, before they got married he used drugs...his life eventually changed and became drug free. Both are Christian. He ...born in the church and she ...accepted the Lord as a teenager.

She just recently told me that he had gone back to his bad habits because of stress at his job. She says he told her about this problem and that it is over, and does not want her to bring it up...she brought it up one time and he was so defensive about it. She has been in this marriage 14 years with 4 children...what should she do? They seem to be happy...she is ok with it because every one makes mistakes...but has a doubt in her heart that he will be tempted to use it again.

His behavior did not affect the family, everything seem normal to her. He did acknowledge to her that this was not the best thing he has done. Is it ok to leave it there... How can she cope with this? Any suggestions...

<small>[ November 20, 2002, 06:07 PM: Message edited by: MariD ]</small>

MariD - I almost think it might bear weight to know what kinds of drugs he was using. In my opinion, some habits are harder to break than others. For instance, a person who smokes marijuana occasionally would have a much better chance of kicking the habit than a person that did crack or heroine.

I wonder why she brought it up again as well. Was she just checking on his progress? I would think it likely that he'll be tempted again. Aren't we all tempted every day of our lives? I would find comfort in the fact that the time he failed he confessed to her that he had fallen back and that he wanted to move forward.

I just hate to see people so encumbered by doubt and fear that they waste precious time with the person they've been given. My advice would be to let it ride - be watchful if she feels the need, but don't expect the worst. Sometimes this attitude only brings about the worst. Just my opinion.....