Good Morning, I need so help from you all! This weekend as you know is Father's Day. It is also H B-Day tomorrow. Last year this time H was not at home for either one. Needless to say, I am having some reoccurring thoughts of him being w/OW. Last night he was acting sort of funny, not really talking like he had been. H left this morning for work w/out giving me a kiss goodbye and left the cell phone w/me. Early this week he told me that he was going to be home late from work and for me not to get concerned or start thinking crazy thoughts. I automatically tied that to he is going to spend the day before his B-Day w/ the OW &OC. As far as I know she has not had the OC yet, she should've by now. H says he is not aware of the birth yet. I don't know if I believe that or not. Am I overreacting or should I be concerned at what I think he is doing. I gave into my intuition before when I had my suspicions and did not follow through w/ them now look, I am in the situaton. I don't want to be stupid or bury my head in the sand. I need help, support, and advice.<P>Stefanie<P>P.S. Wednesday night he came home at 9:00, H said that he was driving around town testing me to see if I would keep my end of the deal and not jump to conclusions if he did something like that. He gets off work at 3:30. He called me about 5:00 to tell me he was still at work and I did not here from him again until 9:00 when he got home. He had the cell phone to call, but he did not. This is the same behavior he used to do last summer.

Excuse me...if he wants you to trust him, "testing" you is not the way to do it. That just makes me so mad! <P>I don't think you are overreacting...I would feel the same way. Driving around town for 4 hours and letting you hang is, #1 - disrespectful of your feelings, #2 - just plain stupid, and #3 - makes me suspicious too!<P>There's a fine line between being suspicious about every little thing our H's do...and I'm still working on that too...but there's also a time to keep your eyes wide open and trust your gut. I hate to say this but I would be concerned.

I hate to say so, but I agree with Andi. His behavior is peculiar for someone in 'recovery'. To treat you with such disrespect by 'testing' you is cruel, hurtful and absurd. And, it sounds fishy.<P>Pay close attention over the next few days. You are not paranoid, you are simply having a reaction to his behavior.<P>Catnip =^^=

Ditto all 3 points. No, you are not overreacting. That's weird.

Well, H came home on-time somewhat. H says that I am badgering him to much and not appreciating what he is doing to show me that he wants to be w/ me. He says that I am going to push him away if I continue to not recognize what he does. He does do things, it just seemed so wierd. I am going to continue to watch and see how he acts tonight. I am not by any means going to put my head in the sand and pretend that I don't notice things. My problem making sure that I don't fabricate things in my head. I need to keep a clear head about everything.<BR>Thanks for your thoughts advice.<P>Stefanie