Well, He did it again. Last week my H came home 4hrs. after work and tonight he is doing it again. The counselor told me last week that if did it again that I need to leave and not return until he is ready to respect me and my feelings. I really don't appreciate this crap at all. I understand that he has a new job and it takes time to get used to things, but this is ridiculus. Tomorrow my children and I are going to visit my sister in Atlanta for a few days and maybe he will change. If not,then I am prepared to stay and get a teaching job there. Just about every school district is looking for Special Ed. Teachers. I am tired of putting my feelings out there for them to be hurt. I am tired of my 6 yr. old asking me when is dad coming home. He senses that there is something wrong here and I am tired of him looking so sad too. Maybe this will wake him up. I am not going to be an idiot for anyone else, those days are over. I am really mad and peed off. <P>Thank you for listening!<P>Stefanie

Good for you, Steph! Up with respect and human dignity!<P>Best wishes and keep us posted,<BR>Jenny

Sounds like you have a good plan. Without him being willing to commit to complete honesty & willing to protect you & your children, well in my opinion I just don't know if I would stay there either. The foundation for recovery and rebuilding a marriage just isn't there without those things. He either doen't understand that or isn't willing to commit to those principles. <P>Your children don't need to see you being mis-treated. That doesn't teach them much other than you will take it. Some folks might see staying with a man after all he has done as being walked on but there is a BIG difference. Once you have come to an agreement to stay together & work things out he should honor that. <P>As long as your intent with your actions is to protect yourself & your children, then you are entirely justified. Don't allow your actions to be punishment. Then it would be a LB.<P>Be strong.. Carolyn

Keep you head up. Follow through with your plan. He needs to respect you, for yourself and for your family.<P>babstr.

Stephanie you replied to my cry for help and gave me some kind words. I pray for you and hope that my prayers give you strength to do what's right for you, your children and your well being. The road to reconciliation can not be traveled unless you are both traveling together. I say this to myself every day, but someday your guardian angle will find you. A quote my sister said to me once and I never forgot. Someday either way this will all be just a memory. Stay strong for you babies. They are truly gods gift. I send you my thoughts, prayers and strength to get through this. Laura<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by fedupinfl:<BR><B>Well, He did it again. Last week my H came home 4hrs. after work and tonight he is doing it again. The counselor told me last week that if did it again that I need to leave and not return until he is ready to respect me and my feelings. I really don't appreciate this crap at all. I understand that he has a new job and it takes time to get used to things, but this is ridiculus. Tomorrow my children and I are going to visit my sister in Atlanta for a few days and maybe he will change. If not,then I am prepared to stay and get a teaching job there. Just about every school district is looking for Special Ed. Teachers. I am tired of putting my feelings out there for them to be hurt. I am tired of my 6 yr. old asking me when is dad coming home. He senses that there is something wrong here and I am tired of him looking so sad too. Maybe this will wake him up. I am not going to be an idiot for anyone else, those days are over. I am really mad and peed off. <P>Thank you for listening!<P>Stefanie</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>