The anger is setting in. Reading all these posts about child support for the OC. Please tell me is this really worth it?<P>Why shouldn't I just take my daughter and become a single parent? Free of OW, OC and CS. Children of single parents aren't bad. Is it really harder on them without both parents? I love my husband dearly. But the destruction he has caused is becomeing unbearable. I'm so sorry I'm asking for help again.

Don't apologize for needing a little help. I think about this everyday. I could move home with my daughter and try to get on my feet. But I do love my H and want to try to work it out. I chose him for better or worse. So right now I am going to try, maybe at the end of this year I won't be able to stay, but at least I will know I tried. You know your own limits. I know the anger makes it hard. Keep you head up.<P>babstr.

Walking away seems so easy --- let me explain... I have thought several times about just throwing in the towel. Taking my child support (not 1 dime less than what he pays for the OC) and starting over. But, the idea of doing everything by myself is scary. Imagine your child getting sick at 2 AM and you are all alone --- your husband is not there to help you, support you, or if you are like me --- calm you down. Imagine having to be Santa by yourself; your husband wouldn't be there to share in the joy. It's the little things that make life so fun. I've been so sick over the fact of my H, OW, and OC. I do stay because I love my H--- but more than that, I stay because I love my children and I love the way they love "us". <BR>My life, as well as other posters on this board, would be so great if my husband just would have pulled out!<BR>Hang in there and remember that you do what you do because of your children, not because of the OW or OC.