Since I promised myself I will not rant & carry on to my H about this crazy OW, please allow me a little self indulgence by posting my ravings here!<P>I try not to LB, but my trust level is NOT at 100%, so I snoop a little. Found a FATHER'S DAY CARD from the OW and the not-yet-born OC in his briefcase. She goes on & on how she loves him & hopes they will spend rest of lives together & signs card from her & baby. <P>Well, I held it together. H and I have been working together & he wants to be here. He is allowing this OW to remain in her dream state until we can get my CS papers filed. Then he agreed that he will explain in detail to her that all is over. He did end the affair months ago, but has allowed he to think that he & I may end in divorce anyway. He is protecting the job that he has (she works for him). I personnaly would like to call his boss & get BOTH fired. Just ranting... since I know this is a safe place to do so.<P>In my imagination, I want to send her a card welcoming her to the family & explaining how much I look forward to the SHARED custody of her child. That I think 50-50 should work and since I am a work-from-home mom, the child will be better off with me. The child can call me MOMMA also, just like my children do. Let her SQUIRM. <P>I will not do these things because I WILL NOT do anything to LB and will continue to be protective of my husband. She is a threat to him, I am not. <P>By the way, I kept the card. Don't know why. Just made me feel better. And if she ever tries to sue his company & claim that there was sexual harassment, I have a little file of all these tidbits of love-rantings from her. <P>Thank you all for allowing me this endulgence. Felt good! Carolyn

Doesn't it just feel so much better to type it all out! I love your idea of the card you'dlike to send her. Believe me, I've had similar scenarios. For example, OW sent H a card while she was pregnant professing her love for him, blah, blah, blah. Well I found it and was so angry. Since OW used to be a friend of mine, I had pictures of us together. Well, my idea was to get the card, put pictures in it of her & I looking happy together and include a package of birth control pills too, and proceed to sending it back to her. Of course, I never did do it, but the idea made me feel better at that moment. Anyhow, feel free to rant anytime!

Rant away sweetie!!! This board helps us all keep our sanity. Keep up the good work I for one would have LBed big time when I saw that card! As my four-year old son would say; "Claps for Carolyn"!!!!