I just want to let you know all that ever since I started reading and interacting in this board my personal life has gotten better! My H and I have been communicating better, no more LOVE BUSTERS, and he even read the BOOK! He never reads anything! Last night my H and I had a wonderful and romantic evening , I have not felt so confident and good in a LONG time! I feel like we are working together and I really feel good today. <BR>With this board, I feel I have a place to vent, a place to ask questions without being judged and a place in which even though I do not know you guys personally I feel like a found a great group of friends! I am praying for all of you, and I know that one way or another we all are going to improve our lifestyles! God bless you guys! <BR><p>[This message has been edited by Fambis (edited June 29, 2000).]

I agree 100%. I said it before and I'll say it again. I quote my sister who gave me some great advice over the years. <BR>"One day, either way, this will all be just a memory". <BR>It still brings tears to my eyes. Our guardian angles will find us soon. I know it.

i third the motion. this place is great. i have felt alone in my situation for so long and now i know i am not the only one out there. i thank all of you for your advice and for sharing this painful experience with us all. so we can learn from what you have already gone thru. i hope someday i am a place to give advice and that i will help someone out there. my prayers are with all of you.<P>happy_girl<BR>

Like I've said before, I don't know how I could have ever survived without this forum if this would have happened to me pre-Internet era...what did these poor people do? <BR>I certainly would have been completely isolated and alone, and I certainly would have been a raging, love-busting banshee driving spouse away from me. <BR>Instead, I bring my anger and hurt here and leave it, sparing spouse of further guilt and promote his and my healing. I often wonder if he realizes the benefit of this forum and how it has saved him indirectly through me....and how it has spared him of hours, days and months and now a year of my wrath, anger, hurt and resentment.<P>This is truly a Godsend. Popeye once wrote in one of her threads how her father was a wayward spouse that produced an OC and that it drove her mother insane. I believe that happened because she believed that this only happened to her and had no way to connect with others out there like we do.<P>I worry about people who do not have the means for a computer or to get on line in order to find us. I also beleive that each and every one of us have been led her by God and Divine Providence in order to find solutions and comraderie for our unique and special circumstances that would have been insurmountable just a few years ago without the mutual support. Think about it for a minute...isn't it incredible how we all found this place? There are other forums on the Internet, but, not one like this...I've lurked and this is by far the best out there.<P>I just adore Steve Harley and I am so grateful to him for creating this forum. And it is so great to have this 'family' with all of you. You couldn't mean more to me if we were old friends with faces I've known for years. By expressing ourselves so completely in such depth creates a bond and a friendship that is true and heartfelt...it's a nice security to know that I can come here day or night and talk to you no matter what, without judgments, without embarrassement. It's funny how you all know more about me than anyone in my family, my friends, my children (for sure)and able to receive this 'therapy' to get me through the pain and uncertainty.<P>I have a habit of writing very long posts and getting redundant and meloncholy when I haven't posted in a while...and I know you all understand...<P>Catnip =^^= <BR>

Ditto on all of it. I too went to three other forums, but nothing like this. I felt like the biggest smuck before I found others like myself in this situation. Regular folks don't know what to say to you if they hear your situation, and they of course can't believe you would stay with your spouse. But we all know those feelings, and this really helps. Thank you all for the great words.<P>babstr.

babstr you are so right. i went to other forums but it is so different when there is a OC involved. i am sure that God led me to this forum. i had not visited infidelity.com for so long and i had a urge to visit it. i read about this forum in one of the posts and found this place. it has helped me immensely. i feel so alone sometimes and coming here makes me realize i am not the only one. <P>happy_girl

You are all so right!! I thank God I found this I would never have the strength to try and repair my marriage or the tools and positive vibes without this forum. I have only been posting a short time but already feel so close to everyone. My son was just in a bad accident and I posted this morning after returning from the hospital only yesterday because where else would anyone understand that my concern for my son gets muddled in resentment towards my husband? I also have gotten excellent advice and pep talks. I thank you all<P> Kris