Thankyou to all who posted regarding my son and his accident. Since I am home taking care of him and my other kids are at their grandma's and my husband is working I have plenty of time to think. My son is coming along with the concussion. My pediatrician sent us to the local university hospital's ER again today after looking at the abrasions on his face. He was afraid they were getting infected. Luckily they are not but are very oozy. My son is VERY depressed about losing his summer. He has to stay out of the sun because of scarring and be careful because of the head trauma. I am giving him my full attention but talk about hurting the one closest to you! He is very nasty and depressed and I am the closest and safest target. I am trying to have patience and I feel for him. At this age even a few weeks feels like an eternity. I got excellent advice when I posted last. About feeling resentful towards my husband during all of this. I was tired and exhausted and STRESSED. This and the holiday weekend (he works in the tourist industry) has put our recovery on the backburner right now. I am taking solace from things I read here and from doing things in the house I would never be able to do if all my children were home. Though I miss them terribly and even them being gone 2 days makes me wonder how anyone could walk away from their family. Well thank you again for your excellent advice and for being the place I can vent so that I don't lovebust later with my husband. Even though I have been posting only a short time it has become a real lifesaver.<P> Kris

Hi there QuakerMom,<P>After reading your posts, I completely understand what you are going through. On Thursday while making dinner my H called home and told me not to panic but that my 14 year old son had just gotten into a biking accident and was taken to the hospital via ambulance. He fell onto his face and needed stitches and had an awful looking abrasion below the eye. Luckily he had on his bike helmet or things would have been a lot worse. He is home and is doing fine. We are watching his wound very carefully and aren't sure if the flap that was sewn back will survive or not. We are able to joke about it now and I think he is almost ready to venture out of the house again camouflaged with a hat of course) . <P>Luckily, my H was with the kids when the accident occurred and was able to do the right things to prevent further damage or scarring. This event has eased my mind of some of the other daily garbage that I deal with and has also re-affirmed why I have stayed with my H. He has been a great help during this ordeal and has been wonderful with my son - he's a big kidder and makes the worst things seem funny.<P>Hang in there. We are here for each other.

Thanks for your response on the other thread. Thought since it was a personal response would come back to a thread that was yours. <BR> Glad to hear your son is recovering physically from his accident. About my son and the affair. He dealt with it. I sometimes feel he thought that I was stupid for staying with his dad. He has developed his own code and will not tolerate any hint of betrayal from any girl he goes out with. I read Private Lies a book about affairs, and its impact on the family. I think who ever marries my oldest son had better be prepared to be faithful. He has forgiven us over the years. He wanted to go see the OC but I talked him out of it. However, in future he may go ahead on his own. He is big believer in "Family". <BR> My H has been a good father to our children since and loving h since his stupidity. He also blamed me at time for his lack of self-esteem, said I never paid him enough compliments. "She" made him feel good about himself. I did not. His job had dead ended, his life was not where he wanted it to be and he fast approaching 40. Now, he is settled and thinks he was incredibly stupid. Hope that helps you. Keep in touch.<BR>Again, glad your son is recovering. As your personal situation develops, you might want to find him a counselor also. Teenagers have a very hard time dealing with this.