Thank you fro your response. I am a novice at this whole posting business and don't even know what a "thread" is. I just chime in whenever it feels appropriate. Our situations seem similiar - a large family, many responsibilites and a husband who felt unappreciated. My son exposed his father's affair and during the 4 times in 3 months that my husband left us my son was actually glad. He told me I was a fool if I ever believed him aga in and to never trust him again. Itried to explainto him that it was more complicated than that but to a teen everything is black and white. However when his father did return (I hope for good) their relationship which had been rocky seems to have improved. However since his accident my son has become tremendously depressed. He is worried that the huge abrasion covering 1/2 his face will leave scarring. He was told to stay out of the sun so he says there goes his whole summer. He is sitting in the house with the curtains drawn. I am going to get him back into counseling because he has been through a lot since April. I feel that my husband had this affair with this young girl because she gave him a lot of admiration and hero worship which his ego needs. At the same time our work schedules were crazy and the kids were taking a lot of my physical and mental energy. I will also admit I had gotten lazy in the relationship and took my husband's wonderful qualities for granted. I hope we can truly recover. He works closely with the OW. We never talk about the whole issue. Our counselor has us coming separetly at this point and I've gone a lot more than he has because of his work schedule. I want to see an attorney to guard our assets but don't know how to bring it up. The whole affair business is not really spoken of and we are going along with me plan "A"ing my little heart out and he seems to be coming out of the fog a little. I have great hope for us but have always been a little naive.<BR> Kris