H moved back home a week ago last Thursday, but insisted on sleeping on the couch. I was doing an excellent Plan A until this past Thursday. Then I found out that he was not taking his medication and wasn't planning on going to the counselor on Friday. I still have not been LBing, but I've just given up. If he doesn't want to help himself, then why should I try to help him? It's not worth it anymore; and once the OC gets here, things will be even worse. I haven't *needed* him for quite some time, but now I don't even *want* him. The only reason he's still here is because he got us in this financial bind. If I ever get the home refinanced, I'll not be dependent upon his meager income. He's not really holding up his end of the bargain in that respect either. <P>I'm trying not to be negative - really - but I needed to get that off my chest. Thanks for being here.<P>Sue

Don't know what else to say except I'm so sorry for your pain. Do whatever you feel in your heart you need to do.<P>Best wishes.

You need to do whatever is best for you. I am sorry that you are being put in this position. It makes it hard when you have to be the one to decided to end the marriage, when you didn't do anything wrong. You are in my prayers. Try to stay positive.<P>babstr.

I can understand. If it were not for my children and my need to make their lives complete, I don't know if I could have gone through all this & rebuilding too. <P>He sounds like he is on a detructive path. Don't go there with him. You have given the chance to get off the path. It is his choice. <P>Take care... Carolyn