Hello guys I have been reading a lot of the posts and a lot of times I have read that you can sue the OW for alienation of affections.<BR>What is alienation of affection? Is it a law? I know where the OW lives this can be done, but is somebody suing the OW? and what are your causes of suing the OW? <BR>What do you get out of this law suit and so on? I would like to know if somebody knows about it!<BR>Thanks!

I second that motion_ I would like to know how to find out about that also and what states it is legal in.<BR> Kris

If you are lucky enough to have this law on the books in your state, I know you have to be divorced from your H before you can sue. If you are still married, affections were not alienated, but only attempted. <P>I would like to know if we can sue for malicious intent, or loss of income, or emotional distress, or theft of services, or something to that effect.

I always wondered if I could sue becasue I was the only one who had the RIGHT to bear my Husband's children. I felt that no one else should be giving him a child except since he was married to me.<BR> I wish there were some way to back at them. How about buy an ad in the newspaper where she lives and Let it read " Ms "Jones" is pregnant with a child by a married man." Or " Seen this woman, she violated another woman's marriage by willingly having an affair with her husband. She is not a victim, but a willing participant" <BR> Wonder what would happen? Our OW worked for Hotel chain that did not approve of employees getting involved with guests. I called the home office and asked about that. Well we all know that noting will happen. I have started my own campaign against those who put down marriage and fidelity. I will never buy a Mitsubishi vehicle as long as they run ads like they do. Have you seen the one for the Montero, with the men in the Gym, who wants to own up to driving a "minivan". The stigma here is, married man with kids, not macho man. Can't a man be married with wife, kids and be happy as well as MACHO? Well enough of my meandering. bye for now. TG

Thank you for all the responses, yes I feel the same way all of you do and this is the way I feel:<BR>"What type of rights do WE have as a the WIFE, if we are totally ignored in these cases not to mention our children? That is what bothers me, we as WIFES what type of rights do we have in these cases? NONE! They do not care how our children live, how we live all the agencies care is about the OC and "poor OW" How can that be? That is what I do not get? If there is no benefit in being married then why did they created it as a legal institution? It is very confusing to me! But yes I would totally back anybody back if they can however be able to sue for the following reasons: loss of income, loss of self esteem, loss of emotions, loss of everything you where before this happens, and what makes me really mad is that these women get VOLUNTARLY involved knowing that the man is married in my case she new I was pregnant and then on purpose getting pregnant, lying about it when we confronted her, and then vindictivelly getting a CS agency to ATTACK us like we where criminals and making us pay for the OC like everything was ok, and in that whole settlement me my child and my married status was never taken in consideration!<BR>Sorry I rambled! <BR>fambis

HiFambis and others, <BR><BR> I considered the same thing after OW threatened to sue him for Breach of Contract to Marry. I looked into it and found out that my state did, in fact, once have both laws, but both were repealed at the same time many years ago. The same is true in most states. Then I looked into filing some sort of Tort for personal injury. I found that most lawyers have a tough time keeping a straight face as they are telling me that such a suit would probably result in nothing but a big expense to me.<BR><BR> The sad truth is that society doesn't give a damn about the injured spouse. The legal system and courts are too busy falling all over themselves trying to do what is "in the child's best interest." Phooey. They are doing what is best to keep more unmarried women and their illegitimate children off the welfare roles. In addition, I suspect that many people in a position to make changes in the laws are themselves adulterers who don't want to upset the legal applecart. <BR><BR> My goodness! Do I sound bitter? You bet I am. We are just a few short years away from being eligibe for retirement after a lifetime of work. I raised a family with my H and worked every single day of my kids' lives. We opted not to have more kids because we felt we couldn't afford them. Now we get to support another child for the next 18 years. We had always planned to help our adult children financially (help them buy houses, etc.) and do some traveling. No way now. In fact, we both cannot even retire when we planned because what we expected to be saving AND THEN SOME goes to the OW every month.<BR><BR> Don't look for justice. There is none to be found. I even read recently that a woman who become pregnant at a party because she was able to arouse a man who was so drunk that he passed out. He didn't even know he had had sex, but still the courts slapped him with child support for the next 18 years. Justice? Not in this lifetime.

There is another law, sorry I don't know what it is called, where the Betrayed can sue the OP for half of every cent that the MP spent on him/her while the betrayer was still married. It has something to do with theft of marital assets I believe.

Hi - just met with an attorney today for the first time and I asked about this. I live in N.Y. He said it wasn't really worth persuing because unless the person was very wealthy the cost to you didn't justify what you would get because they could just claim bankruptcy and have that claim discharged. He wasn't even sure if it was still legal in NY - would have had to research it that's how infrequently it's used I guess.<BR> KRIS