Connie/DD:<P>You really must stop disappearing for long periods of time without letting us know where you are and how you are.<P>Don't stay away because you have decided to stay with your spouse and we all harangued you to Plan B. We were only trying to give you a boost of courage and to support you and were frustrated by the abuse you were taking.<P>If we all stayed away because we decided to stay with our spouses, no one would be here!<P>Stay in touch.<P>Catnip =^^=

I agree with Catnip. I have been wondering where you are. I hope everything is well.<P>I know sometimes I don't get on this site because the stories make me cry and make me angry that we all have to experience this pain. So sometimes it just hurts to be here.<P>I hope you are doing well. Please let us know how you are. LSM

Yes, please check in. We haven't heard from you for awhile. Miss hearing from you.<P>babstr

i have been wondering the same thing. DD, where are you? hope you didn't leave because of stuff we said. you know that we just give our opinions and you have to make the decisions. and we will like you and support you whatever decision you make. that is what we are here for. so please, check in!! let us know how you are doing...<P>happy_girl

Hey guys! I'm sorry - I don't mean to worry anyone - I just feel like just a "whiner". My sister said - those girls on the MB thing are great friends. And I truly agree. I have just been taxed to death with dealing with my H and my fallout and my sister's pain and depression from her H leaving her (now 1 month).<P>I tried to begin Plan B - but I know in my heart that I won't be able to live with myself until I actually do Plan A - I'm a bad bad lovebuster (not that I'm entitled) - but also my D just cried and cried when we packed up and left for her Daddy - he begged me to come back and I told him we would be "roomates" until he showed some signs of being the man I married. <P>Things have been pretty smooth - no giant crisises - H has been at home more - wanting to be around us more and wanting to spruce up the house, etc. I feel bad for you guys - because my sister said - "you know, you only post when something is wrong - you don't post and tell anyone about the good things." And you know - I don't - I think I do you guys a disservice because I post when sad, depressed, angry - never when I'm up, happy, climbing upwards. That isn't fair to expect you guys to give me good advice, etc. with only 1/2 the information - (not that I'm taking up for H, because he doesn't deserve me) BUT nonetheless, I'm here - I've just seen my sister so down and so lonely it has just killed me - so I'm not gonna "work myself to death" re: my marriage right now. I'm going to work on me and wondering why I'm a woman that "loves too much". My therapist suggested that I get that book and it has helped - do you think we all fit into that category(?) I don't know - I got called down at work for my H's "relationship" and him getting me upset at work, etc. That was a tough one. I feel so embarassed and humiliated because of this whole experience - but I do feel stronger nonetheless. Thanks you guys for checking on me - I've also had all the usual stuff - dentist appt., gyn appt., appt. appt. appt - and then trying to help counsel my sister - who will only really talk to me re: her situation. I can see how other's hurt for you - and feel so helpless. I've tried to convince her to come on the board - she needs some encouragement - perhaps today I'll encourage to do just that. Please let me know how you guys are doing(?)<P>------------------<BR>

Thanks, Dd for checking in. I for one am relieved you're OK, just busy.<P>I have heard of that book about Women Who Love Too Much and have read excerps from it. I fall into the catagory, but, truth be told, I am more probably addicted and insecure in many ways and possibly in it for the "WIN". I would need years of therapy to ferret out my true motives and right now I have only time for running damage control.<P>Tell your sister there's always room for one more...<P>Catnip =^^=

DD, thanks for checking in... glad you are okay. we all know how busy is, but check in once in a while because we worry. and tell your sister, we always have room for someone new here. take care, and be strong. you are in my prayers.<P>happy_girl