My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We just (in December) had our third child. So many things have happened in our marriage, I don't know where to begin. Actually, I can't possibly tell everything that has happened in this post, but I will tell some of the relevant information. We had a very tumultuous relationship when we were dating. We broke up several times in a year and a half. Honestly, I never thought we would end up married, but we did. I have always thought that my husband acts as if I am not good enough for him. So often, I have wondered why he married me. Anyway, we have gone through times when I had no appetite for sex and times when he didn't. For the past year or more he has not wanted sex much while I have. The problem that I have is that he doesn't act like he wants to have sex with me, but he looks at pornography almost on a daily basis. We have had countless fights over this, but he continues to do it, he just hides it better. Also, when we got out together he looks at every slightly attractive woman and ignores me. He never wants to spend any time with me talking or doing anything else. When we are out together he acts like we are more brother and sister that husband and wife. What is wrong with me? Why does my husband act this way even after we've been married for 10 years? What can I do to change things in my marriage? I don't know how much longer I am supposed to live like this. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you!

There are a few things you could start with. Sounds like you need to have a quiet discussion with your H about what you like/don't like about your M. Try completing the EN's quiz on this site and read everything else. There's a wealth of knowledge on this site.

You haven't mentioned any problems of A's so that's good.

My H and I spend 15 hours a week on just time alone - no kids, no friends. This may be hard to schedule when you have small children but it sure beats paying for a MC.

Find some things that you liked to do with your S prior to your M.

The fact that your H looks at other women is probably hurtful to you and you need to address this in a non LBing way.

I wish you well. Again, keep reading some of Dr. H's basic concepts. They will help.