I won't go into great detail unless you all need more info.
Married for 8 yrs. this June. Two children, girl will be 6 in Apr., boy will be 3 in March. 4 monts ago marriage started going down hill fast. When I asked my wife what I did, she said it wasn't anything I did or did not do. I asked if there was someone else, and she said no. Asked her if she thought we needed to go to counciling, and she said fine. When I found one and told her, she refused to go. She then tell's me that the only thing keeping her here is 1. The kids 2. It would destroy us financially 3. she is terrified to be alone. I think I made a mistake by suggesting that she go to her mom's for some space and time. She srceemed at me saying that I was kicking her out and that she could not see the kid's again. This happened Mon., and she has spent every night at her mom's since. She comes home in the morning to get ready for work and take our daughter to school. I do know that she is at her mom's. My mother in law and me have a great relationship. She is the one that got us together. Her mom said that she would like to slap the you know what out of her. Any way, if I have done nothing wrong and there is no one else, what should I do next? I have'nt seen any plans on this kind of problem. I'm somewhat passed the depressed stage, and entering the pissed off stage. I just don't know what to do. Everything I do just seems to make matters worse.
Thank you

p.s. Im 38, she will be 32 next month. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

This may not be of much help but since I'm in a crisis myself this is the only option I found helpful... If you belong to a church then go and speak to your pastor, reverend, etc... Often they can help you to cope and shed some light on issues that you might have never even considered.... I went to see my priest recently and I was devastated to learn that only days earlier he had passed away... now I am doubly sad since my major source of healing is missing. I hope this helps... good luck

No one here will truky b ble to understand your situation as well as you.
Having said that, you should probably read all of Dr. Harleys MB principles.
While you say you feel you have done nothing wrong (and that may well be true) she is unhappy because of some unmet need.
We are all human, and in the course of day to day living it can be very easy to overlook the needs of someone we love and cherish.
Getting her out of the house atthis point MAY not be a good thing.
I suggest you go to Plan A. Also, I would suggest hat you pick a coounselor who subscribes to the methods MB teaches. And in picking a counselor, make sure your wife is fully emgaged in the process.
Finally, be very patient with her and yourself. And do not quit or take no for an answer if yes is what you want.Or vice versa.
READ ALL you can on this site. I cnnot tell you how valuable the info on this site really is to all who choose to internalize it.
In reality, it is priceless.

From this and your cell phone Q, I would venture that your wife is, most likely, having an affair...at least an emotional one, if not yet physical. I would suggest you re-post this under "General Questions" in the Infidelity section of the board.

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There is also a lot of info on the home page here on how to deal with affairs. Here are a couple of links:

Coping with Infidelity: The Beginning

What to do with an unfaithful wife?

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