I'm dyin' here!! Did you do anything about the check? If you didn't, that's okay, hon... it is/was your decision. But I still hope you put that floozy through the ringer! <P> So?? Talk, DD! I can't stand the waiting, lol.<BR> <BR> Hope you're okay,<BR> Mynabird

yes, please tell us what is going on. I have been waiting also. I will be looking out for your response.<P>babstr.<BR>

Lol, Babstr..<P> I think that DD doesn't post nearly as much as I do, right now...<P> Heeeelllllllllllllllloooooooooooooo?? DD? Where are ya?<P> Mynabird

Well - sorry - I seem to post sporadicly. Well - I have been biding my time waiting to do "the right thing" with this NSF Check I have of OW's. Ha (it's my Ace Card) - not that I need it for my H or something - just for her. Well - yesterday I got the phone bill from my H (our home phone) and if you guys remember he selfishly took a little trip to Vegas last month and we were in an argument before he left - because I caught him in the midst of talking with OW. He never even saw me before he left! Well there was a # to Atlanta on the phone bill where he had called from Las Vegas. So yesterday (something didn't sit right with me) I called the # it was a hotel in Atlanta - imagine, that - (that's where my H flew out of to go to Vegas) and when I called back and had my story together that I need to know the dates that I had stayed there in July for my business expenses and I proceed to give them OW's last name and then first name - wow---- Imagine the coincidence of her having a hotel room on the night that my H is to return to Atlanta (the following a.m.). Wouldn't you say that was a HUGE coincidence -yeah, puke - Well, I knew that he had taken him a long time to "drive" from Atlanta to Chattanooga - and I thought it was weird - but I didn't dream that he would do that (still naieve after all this). Of course when I mentioned it to him - he denied, denied, denied - he didn't call anyone in Atlanta - he didn't know what she did that weekend - he didn't call her, yada yada yada - I told him it was the last straw - and I hung up on him. Then I called OW to tell her that I hope she enjoys her jail time that she will serve for her boyfriend - but she didn't answer - but today a Certified Letter will be mailed to her with a carbon copy to her lovely parents that enable her behavior and keep "their" child so that they can do the nasty- letting her know that if the full amount is not paid within 10 days, etc. etc. and I'm taking the check to the D.A.<P>By the way - I went home packed my stuff and my daughter's and left my H a note that it was over - and he had 24 hours to get his stuff out of the house. It's so sad that it had to come to this. But I'm finished being a doormat.<P>------------------<BR>

dd, so sorry it had to come to this. but look how strong you are! i can't believe how much detective work you did, and that you told your H to leave. this has gone on too long dd. i am glad you have decided not to be a doormat anymore, because you are a person with feelings and what he is doing to you is not fair. take care. keep us posted with how you are doing.<P>happy_girl

I am sorry that things seem to get worse but DD you should be damn proud of yourself!!!! (I know all of us here are). You are letting your husband know that enough is enough and taking action. The road ahead is not going to be easy but with your strength DD you will be okay!

DD,<BR> I also am sorry to hear about the marriage going under, but you are doing the right thing. Take care of yourself, and make sure you rake OW over the coals good.

Wow, DD! You did quite it little investigation, huh? Good for you for figuring things out.<P> I am really sorry that you are hurting... but I'm glad that you have decided to not be a doormat anymore, too! You have put up with enough bs. We're here for you, anytime. <BR>(((((((DD))))))))<P>Take care of you and your daughter,<BR>Mynabird

DD,<P>I am so sorry that this is the decision that you had to come to. But I am sooooo proud of you. I am glad that you were able to stand your ground, and do what is best for you and your daughter. She doesn't deserve to witness this anymore either. Children need stability, and that was the last thing your h was doing. In the future he will have to gain her trust as a father, and you will have to help her. But right now you have a long road ahead of you. But hopefully the pain stops here, and the healing begins. <P>babstr.

DD,<BR>You did the right thing!!!!!!<P>Keep your head up and keep walkin'!<P>Best wishes to you and your daughter,<BR>Jenny