Right now I am searchng for an attorney to file an intentional tort suit against OW for all the horrid things she has done since DDay to destroy me, our son, and our marriage in an effort to win back my H.<P>Time and space do not permit me to list what she has done, but the story in UNBELIEVABLE! Catnip, you could identify with some of what my OW has done, even using the court system.<P>If anyone is considering filing suit against OW too, please post your progress so we can share info. "Intentional Infliction of Emotional Pain" is a legal reason for suing in most states. The chore is finding an attorney willing to go through the hard work it takes to proceed with this. What I have found is that all attorneys I have contacted agree that I have ample grounds, they just don't want to get into it.

Anniem,<BR> I wish I could, but have been told that lawyers in my state of Missouri wouldn't want to be bothered with Alienation of Affection or anything of that nature. Where do you live, and let me know if you have any luck, okay?

anniem:<P>According to my attorney in Dallas (this where H met OW and four weeks later where they met again and she conceived) I can sue OW for Personal Injury. He says I have an excellent case.<P>Right now he is scanning the laws of the State of Texas. He doesn't think we can do Alienation of Affection even though we are divorcing, simply because he doesn't know if the law is still on the books. I should hear tomorrow what he has determined is the best course of action.<P>He did say that I will have to fly to Dallas and do a deposition. OW will be required to submit one as well. She will probably be able to do one in NY where she lives, and because two of the three encounters were in NY.<P>I'm still a little confused on the particulars at this point, but I will keep you all updated on the progress as we go along.<P>Anniem, I do know that if you kept a journal or phone records or have damaging evidence, this will greatly facilitate your ability to commence action against the OW. I was driven to keep all and any records and a journal (religiously) from discovery because I found out about the affair after their first weekend together. Ask your attorney about a Personal Injury lawsuit against her. You, your son and your marriage have been irreparably damaged by her actions.<P>I think all of us here should consider doing what I am doing. Let's set some precedents, ladies.<P>Catnip =^^=<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by catnip (edited August 24, 2000).]

Thank you for your replies, Catnip and ktgirl. I think I have located a law firm that specializes in Personal Injury cases, but not just physical personal injury, but mental and emotional as well. I haven't yet contacted them, but intend to next week.<P>Ktgirl, I think only 3 states still have the Alienation of Affection law on the books: No. Carolina is one, because that is where the abandoned wife won her million dollar suit against OW. Even though I have NO expertise in legal matters, I have been doing a lot of reading and researching. The WWW is an excellent resource. <P>I gather that the kind of suit that needs to be filed is classified as a tort. There is even a specialized kind of tort called an intentional tort in which the plaintiff believes and can prove that the damage was done intentionally and with malice. Lawyers do not seem to want to take on this kind of suit, probably because it doesn't have the potential of high $$$ and is rather new as it relates to extramarital affairs. That means there isn't much case law for lawyers to use which increases the work they have to do.<BR>Also, much of the evidence amounts to "he said, she said" stuff which judges reeeeaaallly don't like. I also gather that attorneys who handle these kinds of suits are considered to be the Jerry Springers of the legal community. I don't agree with that, so I intend to keep looking until I find a lawyer willing to help me. I don't care if I win one red cent in damages...the attorney can have it all. I just want that evil woman to have to accept the consequences of her actions and exposed for what she is and what she has done. And then, hopefully, she will crawl back under the rock from whence she came. <BR> <P><BR>

Again, I come into a problem getting an attorney. There ought to be a law that we married women can use to sue these women that like to interfere in our marriages, no matter what state we live in. I hear all these politicians shouting about "family values" when they don't give us laws to protect the family. That's such a crock. If you molest a child and are arrested, your name and offense are a matter of public record. Wherever you go, the information must be turned over to the police in your neighborhood. Why can't there be something that allows us to expose these women who feel it's alright to take other women's husbands? It just doesn't make sense.

"Why can't there be something that allows us to expose these women who feel it's alright to take other women's husbands?"<P>Why? Because affairs are between TWO consenting adults. We're not talking child molestors or (I hope) rape; ie your husband and mine are grown men who knew better but did it anyway--no one forced them. Affairs are IMMORAL, but they are not ILLEGAL, and most of the time I don't think a lawsuit is the solution. Cases of continual personal harrassment with malicious intent are different.