Hello everyone,<P>I have been gone out of town for awhile. My life has been busy, busy, busy. I don't know if I have entered a stage where I am really healing, or am I in some kind of denial still. <P>My h is going for another interview this coming Wednesday this time in Ohio. It is quite far from my family and I am not looking foward to having to move so far if it goes through. We of course are still having problems with the child support issues. We have tried to stop the process so that we won't be hit with more. My H went to check to see what the hold up was. Once again the office had some mix up, they had yet another address that wasn't ours, I wonder who is still running this?<P>I am trying to keep up with everyone. I really feel like I have bgun to forget that this has happened. Like if I don't think about it, it will be like it never happened, like I said, denial. I hope all is well with your families. I did have some real joy last week, my daughter had her second birthday. She is getting so old so fast. <P>babstr.

Dear Babstr,<P>Let me be the first to congratulate you for entering a new phase in this madness. You almost sounded guilty that you are moving ahead with your life and not thinking daily about the OW and OC. Nonsense! Whatever makes you happy is what you should feel.<P>I came to terms with my H's infidelity many years ago but then, one day, that whole quiet place I was living in came under attack and the old feelings started to rush back in.<P>Maybe it is denial, but if that is what is getting you through the days and nights -- so be it! You did not earn the right to so much unhappiness, so do whatever you can to turn that around and make yourself happy again.<P>Happy 2nd birthday to your daughter. Keep looking into her sweet face for the comfort that you need to keep your family together.<BR>God has already blessed you and you will remain in my prayers.<P>- Heavenly