Heavenly, <P>Even though you say you are not are not a family law expert, I'm guessing that you probably have access to info regarding attorneys around the country who might be willing to handle torts for personal injury or other kinds of suits against OW. Armed with the names of lawyers who would be willing to help injured spouses file suit against OP, those of us who would like to sue could begin filing suits around the country.<P>Listen, I'm not a vengeful person by nature, but I'm adamant about suing OW and hopefully starting a trend for other betrayed spouses to do it too, and I'd like to explain why.<P>Extramarital affairs are becoming more and more common and even socially acceptable. People really don't get too worked up about a married person having an EA, UNTIL it happens to them. Obviously, if we depend upon human integrity and respect for marriage and its vows of faithfulness to keep many married people and their affair partners out of bed together, nothing is going to change. I believe that we need to do something like the founder(s) of MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Drivers). Let's make those who choose to become involved with married people accept the consequences of their actions and PAY for their choices. <BR> With apologies to you, Heavenly, since this sort of suit would not be a big moneymaker for lawyers, most don't want to get involved. But it will be ground-breaking and build a body of case law, and hopefully prevent at leastsome lives from being destroyed by ther pain of adultery. How about finding us some "legal-beagles with hearts and integrity, Heavenly?<BR>

Personal Injury law is usually done on a percentage basis (two lawyers in the family), so let just one person with a hunk of money get a judgment and I think you will see them advertised just as often as they advertise for victims of accidents.<P>I would think that kids in therapy, the wife on meds, loss of the family home, time away from work, alienation of friends who were friends of the couple, etc would be worth a lot of Pain and Suffering to someone who is used to a grand lifestyle.<P>I am not saying that us little people with no money to speak of are worthless, but if enough people with money did it, it would make it easier for us little people to pursue this and win. It would make cheaters think twice about lying and sneaking. <P>Even if the award was only a thousand dollars, that is a whole lot of money for someone who doesnt have it. And hopefully in time the social stigma will be returned to the OPs instead of the wives like it is now.

Dear Anniem,<P>I love your proposition and I will give it some real thought. I hesitate for a number of reasons which, I will not elaborate now, but will explain letter.<P>Let me think about it ...<P>- Heavenly