My husband works at a fairly large company and one of his single girl co-workers started calling him at home. It would start off as a work conversation, but would turn to non-work issues. After quite a few of these phone calls, I expressed my concerns over them and that if it wasn't an emergency ,then she should wait to talk to you the next day. He got huffy saying that I didn't trust him and that I was jealous. I got huffy and said if she were to call the house again, I would tell her to stop calling unless it was an emergency. The phone calls stopped. One Friday my H and his buddy were playing golf and I called himt o ask him to join me for lunch and we wold go by the cell phone place (needed a new plan) and he said that he wasn't going to be finished in time. No Big Deal until I called him from the cell phone place and he said that he was eating lunch. I was upset that he was eating out, but nothing compared me for the next thing. A few hours later, he calls me at work and said that he had something to tell me and not to be mad, hold a grudge, withhold sex or anything, but he and his buddy had lunch with this same girl. She had called them all hysterical because she and her no fiance had a huge arguement and she wanted a "man's" perspective on things. I am more upset of the fact that my husband has not taken me out to lunch in 2 years and he goes out to eat with this girl. Do I have a right to be upset and what should I do from here, or should I just forget about it?

sorry to say but your post about the trip and this are similiar, How do you feel about him going to lunch and not taking you, now you know how he feels about the HI trip. It hurts either way huh? Your husband is wrong, he is placing his coworkers problems above his wifes feelings. That is a no no. Explain to him why in a calm voice why it hurts and why you feel betrayed.

Good luck

I don't want to alarm you on this issue, with your H talking to this women on the phone about her problems. Keep you eye's open! This is how my H affair started. She would call him telling him she was having problems, with her H and wanted out. Wanted him to take her H's guns and hide them etc. I was blind to it as I always trusted my H. He kept telling me they were friends, and she needed someone to talked to.

Guess what I am dealing with a discovery of a A, plus possible OC. So if you can cut the contact off immediately. Demand him N/C with her. Plus try to make every move to try and catch them. I would go to his work, and wait in parking lot just to see if the two of them would come out together. Started putting two and two together, and boom it was true.

I don't want to upset you but you have to have all possiblities. I have learned this from my H's A. They tend to hide as much as they can when this is going on. As my H said his head was not in a right prospective then. He said he was'nt himself at all, and the fog lifted just before we found out she was pregnant.

Best wishes take care

Since I have told my H that I do not trust this girl and that if she were to pull a stunt like this again, I would personally have a talk with her and explain to her the "rules" of talking to a married man. The wife of the other guy having lunch fully agrees. She hit the roof too when she found out about this. My H also works with another lady who is divorced and I honestly do not have a problem with this woman and I haven't even met this woman. I do trust my husband. I feel now that when he does have contact with this girl (which is every day due to working), he downplays it or doesn't tell me anything at all because he knows how I am going to react.