Dear Weep<P>Thank you for writing that. Incredible!<BR>All the men need to read it. You have <BR>helped me to understand alot.<BR>Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Hi Catnip,<P>I really believe in what you are doing. I am so sorry you have to relieve all the pain over again. <P>I believe you are fighting for a just cause. Your family. I know you do not want to hear this but I really hope you set a president. This means that you will change the law forever. But this might mean a long hard fight. From your case on other people will use it as a means to protect their family. I am just so sorry it has to be you. <P>My Mom got sued a great deal from someone who was trying to herass her. I told Mom she should counter sue for unjustly using the court system as a means to herass. If she had done what I said she could have gained a great deal of monetary damages. Plus his lawyer would have been brought infront of the bar review board for inapropriate use of the court. She never did. I think that is a great mistake to not stand up for one self.<P>Hang in there Cat. Deep down you know you are doing what is right. If you ever need help let me know. I know I have never gone through the pain of knowning there is OC running around so I can never understand that pain. But I know the pain of affairs, lies, and being punished unjustly by OW.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{CAT}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}]

Sweetheart - my heart breaks for you and the pain that this lawsuit is "drudging up". Isn't it amazing how the most basic thing can set you off down a road of "reliving" those bad pains and miseries. Just when you think you've made some progress in healing, then you feel like it only happened yesterday. I'm so proud of you for going forward on your mission - and am very thankful that you have "lucked up" and gotten yourself what appears to be a wonderful attorney. I work them every day - and I can't necessarily think of one that would endeavor to take a case like this. You wonder how the WS's can sleep at night - knowing the pain that they evoked into so many lives. How are these poor excuses for women - allowed to sleep at night? Do they have no conscience? Is it purely a very self-centered person that is use to getting their way "no matter what?" I wonder - I know I have done a lot of bad things in my life that I'm not so proud of - but if someone (a man's wife) called (like you did) and poured their heart out about how much they wanted their husband and their marriage to work out, etc. etc., how could someone not have any compassion and empathy - and feel just HORRIBLE about what "they" were doing to that person. Why is that they all seem to think "he's the one that's married and he's the one with the commitment - it's his fault if he breaks it!" I've heard that(even from my own H - "don't blame her - I'm the one that's married, she's not!" Geez - the lack of mental faculties is amazing.<P>You will be rewarded for your plight. You are right in the sliding scale of things - The OW gets to decide first of all if she keeps the child - and she decides this all ALONE. The man get's no choice (usually). So - then if it's her decision to have a child 1) without a father; 2) by herself; 3) an illegitimate child, too, with a man that is married; then how in the world should the man be "socked" with the financial support? I understand it takes two to tango, but PLEASE. If that's the case - then it should take two to decide what to do about the child. It makes no sense to me. If she wanted a child so badly (the OW) then she should have took her "sperm donation" and went about her business. But no - being the selfish wenches that they are - they want to hold out and use the child as some sort of emotional blackmail and then make all these rules for the H to live by (if he wants to see the child, etc.) and hangs it up in the air as some sort of token prize if the "H will just do right by the OW". Please - and my stupid H for one - still plays right into her hands. Sorry I'm rambling. I just think that if someone took a hard look at the epidemic of OW out there looking for MM to slaughter - then the Court's wouldn't be so lenient in giving these OW a royal settlement in Child Support. The Court (for some stupid reason) see's them as "poor, innocent victims that have been duked into going to bed with a married man" Please - just like in your case - you were woman enough to call her and get down on your knees and beg her for mercy- and what did she do? Laugh in your face and say "I'll show you!" And then the legal system awards them for these actions - PLEASE. I'll be happy to do ANYTHING I can to help get some laws changed - you say the word - and I'll do it. It's so sad that these kinds of things are going on - and so many people are oblivious. Please, please know that there are people that love and support you and want you to be strong (for us). You seem like the perfect ChairPerson for our little group. Your use of the written word is so very very moving and persuasive. Hang in there - and I'm sending you my love and my big hugs and support. <P>------------------<BR>

Dearest Catnip..I am so sorry you are haveing to relive all these horrible memorys again. Just remember you are an inspiration to us all. Id love to slam ow! You are in my heart and in my prayers Cat..<BR>You are the wind beneath my wings...<BR>God Bless.....

Thank you all.<P>Too unglued to write a response. More later.<P>Catnip =^^=

Remember Catnip - I am just across town - I may not be the best support because I am so befuddled myself but I can always listen/read and offer a shoulder.<P>Keep it up - you are so strong - but you need to rest once in awhile.<P>Carrie

Carrie:<P>Can you get away next week for an hour or two? Please advise.<P>Catnip =^^=

I am still doing my lunch busing my daughter from school to daycare, should end soon, so I can't do anything during the day. Tuesdays and Thursdays are my work out nights, we could meet before or after if you would like and I shouldn't be held up at work next week. Work has been terrible this week. Drop me an e-mail, we can discuss it.