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Well, I have been writing a lot today.<BR>So, are you guys interested in the latest in my so-called life? Well, first off I did something I never said I would ever do, I contacted his W. I didn't tattle on him in terms of him trying to get back with me. As far as I am concerned I am not responding to his "pleas" and I have no intention of hurting her again and I feel telling her that he is pursuing me again would do just that.<BR>But, I did call her to find out where she stands in terms of my twins. She listened to me (and I am VERY grateful for that!), and basically responded that she did not know he had contacted social services and that "no offense but I do not want your kids near ours, so no, I don't want them, you can have them". Then she hung up..Well, I felt better in a way. I now know she had nothing to do with the call to social services and I also feel better knowing that she would not support him in a custody battle.<BR>But, it seems his little plan has backfired.<BR>Social services investigated me. my home, the twins school, etc. They found that they are in a loving environment, good school, etc. The only "problem" they had was that I live in a small apartment for the amount of people in there. They then notified me that they were going to investigate his house as well. That did not turn out as well. It turns out that the xMM was growing pot in his basement. His W was horrified and now they are getting investigated. He put their children at risk! What an idiot! The kids are in no danger of being removed but, he has been ordered to undergo drug counseling, etc., AND Social Services recommended that he NOT have contact with OUR children. So, his little plan has backfired. I sincerely feel horrid for his other kids and his W. She didn't ask for this investigation but, her H didn't use his brain. She called me the other night and asked me why he did this (meaning social services), and I just told her, I don't know. I guess he just wants to get back at me because of the boys. What else am I going to say? All I know is that I am finally feeling some peace in this situation, and I can now concentrate on getting healthy and dealing with Twin A's problems. Thanks for everything guys. You are all wonderful. Good luck!<P><BR>

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I read all of your posts today. I am glad to hear that things are looking up for you. Getting caught is what he deserves. As I stated before this sounds like a very self-centered and selfish person. I know that if I were his wife, at this time I would be packing his bags. He doesn't deserve either of you. Hope everything else starts looking up. Hope your health improves and you quickly find the assistance your son needs. <BR>T-girl

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Duranie,<BR>that's GREAT! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com] Justice--woohoo! Ditto what T-girl said. I hope all aspects of your life continue in this vein.<P>Best wishes,<BR>Jenny

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Duranie..soooooo glad to hear it! I really hope his wife catches on oneday. It serves him right for trying to be so vindictive to you...uhhh...<BR>I am really glad for you and your boys..he doesnt sound like he is that great of a father figure. You on the other hand sound like a wonderful mother.<BR>May God bless you and "A" & "B"...

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Duranie,<P>That is wonderful news! You are such a good woman to try to shield the MM even after all he has done to you and your twins. But, I always believe that with a person like that -- just give him enough rope he will hang himself.<P>Keep talking to us - we all care about you and even though your problems are different we can still make each other feel better!<P>- Heavenly


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