I am really surprised that other people have this problem. The OW claim to have a baby by H but neither OW or H has gone for paternity test. If anyone have information on taking OW for court for breaking up marriage please email niquern@aol.com. H and I are seperated at this time but want to work things out. H saying he never slept with other woman. I am just confused and am asking for advice from anyone in a similar situation.

Niquern:<P>Unfortunately, there are too many of us here, one is too many...and we all thought we were alone, the only ones experiencing this horror until we found this forum.<P>You've come to the right place, Niquern. Dr. Harley has written several books, devised a program for troubled marriages and has given us guidelines to restore our marriages.<P>You and your husband must read everything you can of Dr. Harley's and employ those principles in your marriage and rediscover each other.<P>The next best thing to do is get an attorney and find out how to get the OW to have the child tested. Your husband can go to your local blood bank and be tested.<P>If your husband is denying her ever slept with OW, and that is true, you will have to find out why she is being so cruel and causing all this unnecessary disruption. Perhaps he did have sex with her and is afraid to tell you. This is a possible you will have to acknowledge.<P>Before you do anything, I would call a counselor and make an appointment for the two of you. Perhaps in a neutral, safe setting, he will be able to discuss why the OW is claiming this child to be his.<P>This is a very difficult time for you. Come here often and post about what is going on in your life and you will find many here who have gone through what you are going through and thye are always here to help, always willing to listen. Everyone here is so kind and giving; you'll gain a lot of insight, a lot of support and advice.<P>I hope your husband is telling you the truth and this OW is just causing trouble. It is imperative you find out why she is doing this.<P>Good luck, Niquern, and let us know what you find out and if you need any help. God bless.<P>Catnip =^^=

Thank You Catnip for the advice. Me and my husband were in counseling before we separated two months ago. He claims that this women had a crush on him and that is the reason why she is making this claim. The counselor told him to go and file for a paternity test his self. But my husband has not gone to file. So I am starting to believe that it may be his baby. We have discussed this in detail with the counselor. My husband insist that he never slept with her but he hasn't gone to file for a paternity test. I am trying to found out if there is a way to force them both to go. I have asked both of them to go and they have not gone yet. I really can't afford a lawyer at this time. I just would like to know how other people has handle this type of situation. My husband has yet to admit that he has sleep with this woman and I can't force him to. He has stopped going to counselling and church. But I am still trying to believe in him. He is making it impossible because of his slow walk to the court. OW is making it impossible by not file for a test either. I need to know if I have a marriage to save. But my husband is making me feel that I don't have a marriage to save. I am starting to believe that he slept with her but I have no way of proving it.