PO,<BR>You posted on my thread the other day and said that your husband had really had a tough time at the ultrasound. How is he doing and how have you been able to comfort him? I have wanted to offer to go to the Dr. with my wife, but I too think it would be too much for me too handle. How far along are you in this pregnancy? It doesn't matter that this was a one night stand to your husband, does it, or is it easier for him to handle, knowing there wasn't emotional involvement? I just want to keep tabs on your H and maybe we can get some strength from each other. My personal email is mcm78666@yahoo.com if he ever wants to email me. I'm not trying to make you feel any worse, I am just having a tough time right now trying to accept this new addition!<BR>Floored

Floored,<P>Sorry it has taken me a few day's to respond to your question. I travel a lot and don't always take my computer with me. <P>Also, I was over at the hospital yesterday having an amniosentisis. I am 16 weeks 4 days today if you believe what the ultrasound says.<P>My H & I stayed up late the night last week that I had the first ultrasound. He wanted to know what I was thinking when I was looking at the baby, etc. I don't think of this baby as OM. Just mine, and hopefully my H's. It takes a lot more than biology to make a father. Even though I screwed up royally in my affair, I can't bring my self to hold it against the innocent baby I'm carrying.<P>I tried to just listen to what my H feels and thinks. I still cry a lot when he talks about his hurt feelings because the guilt still overwhelms me. I find my self on my knees praying sometimes several times a day asking for forgivness, understanding, help for my H to get through this with me and that this child is accepted with love and and is not resented. It wouldn't be fair. It is hard for my H still, I know and I don't expect any differance. Perhaps the only thing is that the really hard days are farther apart.<P>My H read your post tonight and I asked if he would write, he say's maybe. I think a lot of this is still so raw for him that he isn't really sure how he could help anyone else?? I'm not trying to put words in his mouth. Maybe he will write, maybe not. It will be up to him.<P>One thing is very different for us, we have not other children together (he has 2 grown) and we are together, not seperated. Has any of that changed for you? <P>Prayers are with you,<P>Positive Outlook