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Matthew 11:28-30
"If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me and I will give you rest. Take the yoke I give you. Put it on your shoulders and learn from me. I am gentle and humble, and you will find rest. This yoke is easy to bear, and this burden is light."<p>[ May 24, 2002: Message edited by: echo ]</p>

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I find that to be quite admirable, raising 3 children on your own. Your post reminds me of another Bible chapter:<BR>-<BR>Luke Chapter 18 vs 10-14:<BR>-<BR>"Two men went up to the temple to pray; one was a Pharisee, the other a tax collector. The Parisee with head unbowed prayed in this fashion: 'I give you thanks, O God, that I am not like the rest of men-grasping, crooked, adulterous-or even like this tax collector standing next to me. I fast twice a week, I pay tithes on all I possess.' The other man, however, kept his distance, not even daring to raise his eyes to heaven. All he did was beat his breast and say 'O God, be merciful to me, a sinner.' Believe me, this man went home from the temple justified but the other did not. For everyone who exalts himself shall be humbled while he who humbles himself shall be exalted."<P>God Bless<BR>Neptune

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Thank you for the bible quote...I'm always interested in what he has to say to me. I need his encouragement and love more than ever.<BR>May he bless YOU and keep YOU with him always.... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]

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Dear Trying to be Strong,<P>Ironically you were judging the betrayed wives here by exalting that 'christian lady' who gave you a bible verse over them.<P>I just want to point out that while you are in despair over your situation, you had a choice that the betrayed didn't have when you exercised that choice to have sex with her husband.<P>We make mistakes in life, absolutely, but to come here and kick a fuss over how you have been treated after the way you have treated the others in this forum, is something I really want you to reflect on in all honesty and objectivity.<P>The sincerity and courage that some of the betrayed wives and even Noodles (I think she is the BS who introduced you to this MB site) have shown OW in the beginning have been heartwrenching to read. Until, the OW start rubbing salt into the wounds, .... The way to heal the betrayed hearts is for their wayward spouses to show full repentance and not to be told by the OW that 'I am not wanted in their healing process and haven; is it right?'.<P>Many have found it in their hearts to give counsel to OW who are not their WS's OW simply because THEY DID NOT JUDGE YOU as THE horrid OW in their embattled lives. You are entitled to your way of thinking and opinions but if they in any way contribute to stumbling blocks in the healing path of others, I hope you recognise them.<P>Take care<BR>weep<P>

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by TryingToBeStrong:<BR><B>I was on a different forum this morning. In pain and not knowing where to turn as I have no support in trying to raise my three children on my own.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>tryingtobestrong,<P>i am sure that there are many forums for single parents out there, and you could always start an egroup for women with children from married men or something. and i am speaking in total seriousness. go to egroups.com maybe there already is an egroup, but if not, start one and then advertise it around a forum where there might be other women in your situation. i just feel that like jenny said on another topic, this is about marriages, and you are not part of a marriage. i also can't see how your presence will help noodles any in her struggle to save her marriage. i know it would literally push me over the edge to have the OW posting here.<P>i am not judging you or your actions, just your motives for being on a forum with a whole bunch of married people dealing with affairs that have resulted in children, whether it be the WS posting here, or the BS. they are still working on their marriage.<P>but since this is an open forum, i can't ask you to leave. it is much easier if i refrain from visiting and posting here. as all this talk of late has pushed me quite a bit back in my healing process. i feel like i am back to square one. <P>happy_girl<P>p.s. well said weep.<BR>

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Well said Well said Weep & Happy_Girl...<BR>There's something not right about tryingtobe strong and noodles being "friends". I don't get it at all...not even a little bit. I ditto what the two of you have said. <P>Comfort<P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...

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I totally agree that the OW has NO place in the healing of a marriage. I know from personal experience that it is a very bad idea to ever try to involve the OW in your life. If they were willing to do it once and had strong enough feelings for your H that they slept with him it WILL happen again.<BR>I also believe that it is so sad that the W's on this board have been bullied into giving up this gift from God.


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