Update:<BR>I had a talk yesterday with my husband about what we are going to do once this child is born (I am 8 months pregnant with OM's child-there is a small possibility it may be my husband's however). He said that if this is his child, he would want me to move back in with him and we will raise this child together as though nothing happened between us. I asked him if he wanted to be there for the delivery. He said that since the odds are that the child is not his, he doesn't want to be present. He said, "If the child turns out to not be mine, I would feel funny being present at the delivery. Yet, if the child IS mine and I am not there for the delivery, I will never forgive myself for not being there." He has decided to "go with the odds" and not be there. It is his decision and I did not argue with him. However, I am wondering that if he would feel that bad for not being present at the delivery if the child is his, why would he not just do it just in case?<BR>-<BR>The next thing he said is that if the child is not his per the DNA test, he would like to divorce and deny paternity. He said that he prayed and prayed about this and could not find it in his heart to raise a child that is not his own. He said, "I have listened in church for answers, I pray every day." He said that he feels sorry for me that I will be out on my own raising a child and sometimes wants to take me back just so I do not have to be alone. However, we both agree that is not a good reason. We should only reconcile out of love, not pity. I asked my H why he feels that he could not raise OC and he said because he would feel strange when we went to see his family. Even though his family would accept any child, H husband would feel bad because he was not the biological father. <BR>-<BR>My husband also expressed that he is still hurt by the infidelity. He said that he forgives me on a friendship level, but doesn't as far as a husband and wife level. He started talking about how he envisioned me with the OM. It makes him sick. He told me that the thought of having sex with me makes him want to vomit because I am pregnant and because I was with someone else. He also said that he knows I am sorry and that I would never do it again. But it doesn't change the fact that I did it once and he doesn't thing that he could ever get over it. Also, he is mad at me because I told his family about his gambling habits and they are on him all the time about it. These are issues that will have to be worked out if the child is his and he is willing to do so. If the child is not his, he would rather part and go separate ways.<BR>-<BR>Anyway, that is what we discussed. With all said, I have known him for 10 years and I know by his actions that he still loves me. I go to the house all the time and help him clean and take care of our cat. We get along great as friends and I stay at the house when he goes on business trips to watch over things. I have a hard time when He says one thing but acts another way. I will continue to be there for him when he needs me until the end. That is all I can do. I pray alot for guidance. I suppose whatever happens will be God's will. <P>Neptune