Mind you, I am not in the position of the betrayed W's, H's,etc. on this board..But, what about turning these "hurtful" dates around?<BR>How about when it is the OC's B'day, take that particular date and make it instead a special day for you and you alone? Or when discovery day rolls around, turn it around and look at that day as the day that your marriage became renewed? As horrid as the stiuation is, turn it around to be something GOOD for you! Don't let these particular dates get to you. You guys are too strong and too good to let it get to you..Make the negative into a positive, if possible.<BR>I know easier said than done, but, it is worth a try. Besides that, living well and positivly is the best revenge. Think about it......The OW's WANT these dates to bother you, if you don't let them bother you, YOU WIN, not them!!!!!SMILES..............<P><BR>

Thanks Duranie I needed that. OC b'day is this week and D-day is 12/3. The holidays will soon be upon us and last year my major holiday was a bust.<P>Give thanks to the Lord at all times.<BR>ITS

I'm a little late with my response, but I couldn't agree with you more, Duranie. I plan to do just those things to chase the blues away on those dates. Enough blues already! time for a change.<P>Thanks!<P>Comfort<P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...