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Why he does that?
#78992 03/11/03 05:22 PM
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I cheated on my husband and confessed. We want to try to get through it but he keeps backsliding. He will take me out to a nice lunch or dinner and immediataly after we are done eating and in the car he brings it up again. It is like going up in a hot air balloon and seeing the scenery and somebody fires a shot at your balloon. I just get to thinking that we are on the right path and BAM somebody covers the path with rubble. I understand that it is going to take some time for him but is it healthy for him to keep asking almost perverted questions? I would love NOTHING more than to just forget this ever happened, and I know he would like that too, but everytime I turn around it kicks me in my [censored] all over again.Can ANYONE PLEASE HELP!!!
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Hi Luv,

Your H isn't backsliding. He's reacting normally. He's hurt, very hurt. It's the worst pain.

Here's the bright side, you told him about it and you guys are still together <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Love him, support him, prove to him through actions that you are no longer in contact with the OM.
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Luv,

Neither you or your husband will ever "forget" this. It's impossible.

When he asks the "perverted" questions, that's normal as well. Some betrayed spouses need to know more than others. Give him the honest answers, he deserves that much. I know it's hard.

You two have a good start!

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