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My H usually goes to see the oc about every 10 days.Well,he hasn't been in three weeks.He doesn't seem to want to talk about it much.Do you think it might have to do with the fact that the exow has a boyfriend now?Should I question it or let it go?THe oc is a year old.In past times the ow has refused to let my H see the baby if she wasn't getting what she wants.ex.enough money,etc.
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blue00, I really dont know what to tell you since we have had no contact. You must be a very special person I know I would not have been able to stay with my husband if he was in contact with the ow. Maybe he is seeing how much it hurts you. Sorry I cant be of much help. with love flowerseed
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Unfortunately, no one here has a crystal ball, Blue. <P>These answers can only come from your husband. Sometimes we instinctively know deep in our hearts what the truth is and yet we refuse to see. Other times truth eludes us but we have suspicions. Regardless, if you have a deep 'need to know', simply ask your husband straight out, preferrably in the safety of a counseling session. Encourage him to share his feelings with you about the situation. Speak up and come right out and ask him...it is an option to consider.<P>I hope it is simply because he is not interested and wishes to focus on you and your children as he should...which happens often.<P>Catnip =^^=
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Blue:<P>I agree with Catnip....ask your husband. Communication should be open and honest. You have a right to ask about anything that confuses you, scares you, concerns you or involves you. Any changes in his behavior are subject to questioning...at least that is how it is in my house, and I don't hesitate to ask, inquire, interrogate when needed ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/wink.gif) Seriously...only your husband can answer your questions...give him a chance to do so. Good luck<P>Comfort<P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...
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blueoo, everytime I would talk to my husband he would always say I dont want to talk about it. I had to explain to him if he wont answer my ? than all that does is make it where I have to guess and try to figure things out on my own which drove me nuts. That seemed to help. He did open up more after that. Hang in there with love, flowerseed
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Blue00,<P>I don't have much new to add, just to echo what the others have said. You must talk to your H about this situation.<P>I hope that he has grown weary of the situation with the ex-OW, now that there is a new man in the situation, and that he wants to focus on you. <P>Like flowerseed said, sometimes it helps to explain to your H how it makes you crazy when he won't talk about something. That also seemed to help my H open up more to me.<P>Good luck.<BR>- Heavenly
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Dear Blueoo,<P>Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. all of the above.<P>I tell my WS to narrow the permutations going on in my mind and stop the millions of probabilities forming quickly. You see, I have a very very active imagination (and he knows that). So he gradually reveals more.<P>Be strong, be focused, be ravishing, be radiant, be energised, live fully and joyfully!<P>God bless you<BR>take care<BR>weep
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