Hi Everyone,<BR> My H left me a long message on my answer machine. <BR> Wishes I'd understand how seeing child would not be neglecting me or our son.<BR>Wishes I would change my mind.<BR>No one will love me like he does.(is he kidding?)<P>If I want divorce it's all on me.<P>I felt I couldn't stay, this as painful as it is confirms that.<P>I've been praying....hard.<P>God help us all. I know it's for the best to file. Soon after holidays,I guess I'll start.<P>I'm hoping dna says it's not his.They both will have destroyed each of their families and it will be too late.<P>As Tina Turner says,What's love got to do with it?<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

I'm sorry. This sounds so very painful. May you and son feel the angels' wings wrapped close around you.

Not soon enough Jenny,not soon enough....<P>Btw..her name is JEN....lol<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Imagine this Gemini,<BR>The OW's name in my situation is Jenny!<P>

Must be a lot of Jen's that are good people too.<BR> Just can't believe there's 2 here!<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

I'm so sorry, ladies!! My real name doesn't even have a J in it!!!! If I hadn't already been using this alias for years here at MB, I'd change it just to save you the painful reminder... SOOOO sorry

BWWWWAAAHHHHHHAAHHHHHAAAHHHHWWWW!!!!<BR>It's ok!!!!! LOL You can be "Jenny"<BR>She's JEN OK? OK!<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

That's OK, Jenny!<P>I picked my username from the pen sitting on my computer desk. Does anyone know the name of the OC? The OC's name is a very common one. There's two of them in my little girls class and one in her dancing class. I know it's just a name but sometimes it makes me cringe. What a crazy situation we are all in!<P>Eraser<p>[This message has been edited by Eraser12 (edited December 07, 2000).]

That okay ladies I have one that takes the cake, OW named OC after my H!

Chelsea I can't believe that! It certainly does take the cake!<BR>I fear that. We have a son.He's not named after my H.<BR>If it's a boy and if it's his, and she does name him the same,I wouldn't be the only one feeling bad,our 21 yr old said "he'd kill himself". He's better about it now.We talk about it and I tell him it would mean "nothing" cuz Dad wants US! He'd always be "first"!<BR> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Chelsea,<BR>Hon, you deserve your own thread! I'd love to hear your story!! OWmen never cease to amaze me. Does the OC/kid have the same first AND last name? UGH!! <P>Our XOW asked my H if she could name it after him when she was pregnant (he said "please don't"). After she had a girl, she named it after my MIL (whom she's never even met!). Didn't use our last name though... I like that.<P>Gonads the size of Texas... BLECH.<P>(Jenny, 2+years recovery--woohoo!)<p>[This message has been edited by Jenny (edited December 10, 2000).]

Girls, I think I can even top that one how about a little girl being named husbands first middle and last and it gets even better the dna proved he was not the father.I just cannot understand what they are thinking, oh ya I guess they cant be you have to have something to think with first. Wonder how she is going to explan this one. With love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>Carol Ann

gemini1, could your son write his father a letter and explain his feelings maybe it would sink in if it was put into words. How sad that there have to be such thoughless people in this world. I will pray that he is not the father for you and your son. with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>Carol Ann

Flowerseed,<BR>My son and his Dad had lunch Thurs. Our son did tell him feelings on everything.My H said things like "I wish I could take this away from you and Mom" And "It's not how you think,no holidays,birthdays,weekends,ballgames/ballet recitals etc" My question then is how will the kid know bio-dad? I think he's not sure about anything,except he begs me through letters and "hallmark" cards (this man would never spend that much time in card shop b4 lol), to please give us a chance!<P> Well,I DID call back after one card I got Friday about "growing old" with your soulmate and "only" love of your life.(ok,I know ,but I felt sorry for him.)<P>We went on a date Saturday(fun)to dinner and movie. Wants us to counsel together to see if there is still hope.I figure what more do I have to lose? We'll set up time for next week. I'll let you guys know.<P>He kissed my hand and did tell me it was sex only and the guilt was killing him. He NEVER told her he loved her but she feel in love.(some friend)<BR> Probably had goodbye "lay" and she called a few weeks later w/news.<P>They did it in her and H bed and her car!Says it was a few times a month whenever she called. Oh well.... can't believe this.<P> Debi<P> Forgot to tell all of you. I asked if he planned to be at hospital and he said "no" I'll find out from someone, then my lawyer and I will do paternity and if it isn't mine I'm suing her for all of this!!!!!! <P>------------------<BR>Imagine....<p>[This message has been edited by gemini1 (edited December 10, 2000).]

gemini1, Are you guys sure she is even pregnate. These swamprats tend to lie and use any means they can to stay in the picture. I wonder how husband would feel if this proves not to be his or there isnt even a pregnancy and he lost you and your son. Things can work out but he has to put you and your family 1st. We have nothing to do with OC I couldnt have stayed if he would have wanted anything to do with OW child. My husbands a slow learner. Ive been through this dna crap 2 times now 2nd time he didnt get so lucky. Good luck on counsiling. with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>Carol Ann