Below Takingcare commented how she heard a man call the Dr. Laura show and he told her that he had an affair with a married woman and got her pregnant. He was wondering if he should pursue a relationship with this OC. Dr. Laura gave the same advice to him that she has given other callers in the same situation, advice I agree with. If the OW's husband is willing to be a father to this child he should stay away. All he was was the sperm donator and this child would be lucky enough to have a father. BUT, Dr. Laura is a big pusher and believer that a child have BOTH a mother and a father. In a situation where the woman cheats becomes pregnant and her hubby raises child as his own, I think that's fantastic. But, what about the OW who is not married? It would be ideal is she placed it up for adoption or let the bio father have it and raise it with his wife (if she could be loving and excepting). But, Dr. Laura had a call this morning from a woman who's husband had an affair and got a single woman pregnant. Dr. Laura's words to her were "If you make that decision to stand by your husband and stay with him then you have made that decision to stand by the OC too". She's a BIG believer that if the OW does not have a willing spouse to be dad that the MM needs to step up to the plate regardless of his situation with his wife because there is an innocent child that he is responsible for. So, two sides of the coin for DR. Laura.

I agree that she takes a VERY crooked spin on married men fathering children & how they should stand by that OC. I am 100% opposed to that stand and think that she is dead wrong on that issue. I have heard her tell women that their H should go be with the OW in the delivery room to "bond" with the OC. That is BS. That is just being supportive of OW. In fact, I am not too fond of a lot of positions she takes. Guess I am one of those folks who "pick & choose" what they want to hear when it agrees with their opinion. <P>I have heard her berate women who stay with men who have cheated, regardless of how well they have repaired their marriage. Very mixed messages there on when you take care of children & when you don't. Guess that is why I usually don't listen. After all, programs like that are entertainment, not legitimate advise. Too much voyerism for me. <P>Take care... Carolyn

BEFORE my situation I couldn't take her!<BR>Heh...HEH...<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....