Seasons Greetings to all! This is my first time back in almost 2 weeks. I left suddenly because my father died just about 2 weeks ago and I had to go out of town to be with my family to bury him. It's been a very sad time for us. But here I am, trying to get into the Christmas spirit, at least for my children's sake. Anyway, I haven't had a chance to read and catchup with all the posts. I will try in next few days. If anyone has addressed me and I haven't responded, now you know why I have missed you all and will be back here as soon as I can. I wish each of you all the blessings of this holiday season and peace and good health in the new year!<P>Love to you all,<P>Comfort<P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...

comfort, Iam so sorry to hear of your fathers death my father also died a few years ago. How is your mom doing my mother amazed me. I never would have though she could make it on her own but she has and is doing very well now. My thoughts are with you with love flowerseed<P>------------------<BR>Carol Ann

welcome back comfort. so sorry your father died. my thoughts are with you. i am glad to see you back here.<P>MERRY CHRISTMAS! well almost.<P>happy_girl

Comfort,<P> Welcome back, we missed you! I'm sorry you lost your father. He is in a better place, so I am happy for him. I'm sure he's watching over you, right now.<P> God bless you both,<P>------------------<BR><P>Gregg

Flowerseed: Thank you so much for your condolences. My mother and father were divorced for more than 20 years but were the best of friends and really still loved each other. My father was remarried and his wife and my mother have a very amiable relationship. That really made for a peaceful situation since there were no bad feelings anywhere. I'm thankful for that. My mother is doing o.k. She is going to miss him very much. They were childhood sweethearts so she's known all her life. Glad your mother is doing well. We're stronger than we think.<P>Happy_Girl: Thank you for your good thoughts and your condolences. It's good to be back also. Merry (almost) Christmas to you, too! <P><BR>Lynton: Thank you for your condolences as well. And I couldn't agree with you more. My father is in a better place and I know he's watching over me. That is so comforting. Thank you!<P>Merry Christmas to you all with love!<P>Comfort <P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...

Comfort,<P>Condolences for your loss. I am so sorry about your Dad. Having this happen this time of eyar is very difficult indeed.<P>I, for one, am glad you're back. Your advice and 'comfort' have been sorely missed.<P>Here's to a New and Happy Millenium.<P>Catnip =^^=

Dear Comfort,<P>Sorry to hear about your father's passing. <P>God bless you<BR>from weep

Catnip & Weep:<P>Thank you both very much for your condolences. I'm comforted by the many memories that I have of my father, especially when I was growing up. And you're right, anytime is a bad time, but especially this time of the year. Thank you all again.<P>God Bless<P>Comfort<P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...

Comfort:<P>We have some 'newbies' here, and a couple regulars going through trauma. I am so glad you're back because your 'comfort' is always comforting to those in pain.<P>I hope you husband was as wonderful as mine was last year when I lost my grandfather. Sometimes they can really step up to the plate. I noticed that my husband was able to give me empathy, love and extraoridinary care when I was in pain and grieving...as long as he wasn't the one who caused it. (hahaha) I remember thinking at the time how wonderfully supportive he was and wondered why he couldn't have been more like this for me at discovery and for the first few months after. Later I realized he could be my protective champion as long as he wasn't responsible for my sadness or anger.<P>My grandfather was one of the top ten people in my life. We were so close and he was so wonderful to me and to everyone, so beloved. I was with him when he died a year ago yesterday. It was just the two of us in the hospital room and I am so grateful I was there with him. I miss him so much. I think about him every day and his amazing kindness and insight. I wish more men were like him...there would be less of us here at the forum.<P>God bless, Comfort. Remember your Dad well, his spirit will never leave you.<P>Catnip =^^=

I'm so sorry for your loss Comfort.....<P>Bless you over these rough -to-deal-with-Holidays....<P>A prayer is being said and sent your way.<BR> <BR> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Catnip,<P>Your grandfather sounds like he was a wonderful man. I can tell that you loved him very much and it's easy to see why you still miss him. I'm glad you have so many wonderful memories of him. I was not with my father when he died. My sister was. She was extremely close to him so it was very appropriate. My sister lived in the same city he did. I live in another state and did not have day to day contact with him like she did. My last conversation with him was on Thanksgiving Day. We laughed and talked about my next visit to NY to see him. I had no idea it would be to attend his funeral. I am very grateful that we had a good conversation and that the last thing I said to him was that "I love you, Dad". Yes, my H has been a great source of comfort to me. He sometimes has a hard time showing his emotions and this situation is no different. He's not a man of many words so instead he just holds me and that's good enough for me. Thank you as always, for your comforting and kind words. You're a gem! I haven't been online so much lately with Christmas and all. I also still feel like I'm in a "daze and fog" behind my father's sudden death. I want to come regularly again and help with any newbies and our old friends in any way I can. I will try to get back as soon as I can. In the mean time, I know they're all in good hands with you and the others here.<P><BR>Gemini1:<P>Thank you so very very much for your prayers. I appreciate them more than I can say. It's hard to believe that I will never hear my father's voice again, at least not in this life. I am comforted to know that he is there in heaven with my sister and so many other of his friends and loved ones that have gone before him. And also it gives me peace that I know that one day, I will see him and my sister again. In the meantime, I just try to go on one day at a time. I'm grateful for all the love, support and prayers that I've found in my personal life and from my friends here. Thank you.<P><BR>Love to you both<P><BR>Comfort<P><P>------------------<BR>Remember the sunshine when the storm seems unending...

I re-read my post and realized that it may have sounded a bit confusing about my sisters. My youngest sister is alive and well. She is the one who was with my father when he died. When I made reference to my father being in heaven with my sister, I was talking about my other sister who died 20 years ago (only 19y/o). I still miss her very much. It still seems like just yesterday.<P>Comfort

Welcome back, C. <BR>My condolences on the loss of your father, and missing your sister. I hope the memories warm you.<BR>Wishing you and your family a merry christmas,<BR>j<BR>

Dear Comfort,<P>My sincere condolences on the loss of your dad. With the loss of your sister at only 19 and all of the other things happening in your life, you have certainly had your share of hardship. But, we are so much stronger than we know and you are handling things so well. It must be a great comfort to you to know that your last conversation with your father was such a loving one. So many times we forget to tell the people close to us that we love them.<P>I know it must be difficult to try to get into the Christmas spirit at this time, so I pray that aside from 'going through the motions' for the sake of your family, that you will actually feel in your heart some of the joy of the Season. Christmas is a magical time when prayers are answered. I pray that yours will be.<P>- Love, Heavenly