He's two (in a few hours), and he is simply a delightful, precious, wonderful little boy!!

Bless you & your boy. You are a lucky man to find peace with your situation.<P>I wish I could be allowed the joy you have found in this child. I really think I could, if the OW would allow it. <P>Take care... Carolyn

<BR>K,<P>You are da man! The Noah on this end turned two in November, so I can officially call you a copy cat on the name thing. <P>Bystander

Bystander---I hear you. Of course, there may have been a Noah that preceded these two---I seem to have read that somewhere. <P>Good to see you around as of late. I had assumed that you had retired to some tropical island, living off of referral fees from Schnarch. Hey, the island that I bought with Steve Harley's referral fees has one available just next door... no, wait---that's not an island, it's just a snowdrift...

Happy birthday, Noah...<P>You sound good, K, and hope your holidays have been wonderful...<P>My son will be six next month, I'm so glad his daddy and I have rebuilt our marriage.

Happy Birthday,NOAH 2YRS. OLD!!!!! <P>Glad all is well with the family.<P>Best wishes for a great new year.<BR> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

Happy Bday Noah! If I recall... Noah means peace? That's great, K! And you are a valuable addition to this board!

Happy Brithday to you, Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday, Dear Nooaahh, Happy Birthday to you...<P>Catnip =^^=<BR>(who is a sucker for toddlers)<p>[This message has been edited by catnip (edited December 29, 2000).]

Dear K,<P><BR> Hope you have lots of birthday fun with Little Noah.<P> You're a lucky man, I envy you.<P><BR> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR><P>Gregg

K,<P>Happy Birthday to Noah! Two years old -- what a wonderful age so full of energy and so inquisitive about life.<P>Noah is a lucky boy to have such a wonderful dad! Congratulations to your whole family.<P>- Heavenly

K,<BR>I'm so very happy that you have had a success story and that little Noah has a dad as committed as you. I hope that one of these days he will realize how special you really are. I can only begin to tell you how much I appreciate you, and I'm sure a lot of the others feel the same. I hope that my W comes around and I'm able to be there for OC at 2 yrs. old. God has richly blessed you and I hope He continues to do so.<BR>Floored

Happy 2nd Birthday Noah!!!!!!<P>Continued blessings to you and your family K.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, NOAH!<P>Hi K,<BR>Thanks for being K! I've read just about everyt word you've written on this site in the last 6 months. In fact, my first (only?) thread was directed to you. Please accept my profound gratitude for your helpful comments and insight. <P>However, as a professional cynic I want to ask you a few questions....PLEASE, PLEASE don't take offense...none is intended. If I got it right?, your W, to this day, still declines intimacy with you? How long can you put up with that? I couldn't take it if my W felt revulsion at my touch.....I have the opposite "problem".....my W seems to have a vastly increased sexual appetite since her affair. Heck, some nights I have to tell her I have a headache! Sometimes she gives me the creeps, tho...it's unbelievable....since she is very, very pretty (Cindy Crawford, without the mole).....it's like she's trying too hard to "make it up" to me, or sumthin, I dunno. Oh well, I have to get these demons out of my head somehow.....cus "our" boy is going to be here in early Feb. I'm REALLY looking forward to his birth......the first mug he's ever going to see is mine! (If I can elbow the doc/nurses outta the way!)<P>I was also wondering if you are a shill for the Harleys, or even Dr Harley himself? Sorry, theres the cynic again. No matter...MB is a wonderful site that helps scads of people and God bless them/you for maintaining these servers. Believe it or not, I have written Harley's phone number on a card and given it to acquaintances that were in need....... <P>Thanks again, K, sorry to ramble on lil Noah's thread.<P>HAPPY BIRTHDAY, NOAH!! <P>Happy New Year to all you wonderful MB'ers!<BR>Jeez....may this coming year be better than the last!<P>Lou

Thanks for the well-wishes, everyone. Noah had a great time---we had a chocolate cake with candles, and he blew them out himself. Then after we sliced him a piece of cake---he yelled "cake" and pointed to the "remaining" portion. So we all sliced our pieces and let him attack the big cake---what fun!!!<P>Lou:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I have the opposite "problem".....my W seems to have a vastly increased sexual appetite since her affair. Heck, some nights I have to tell her I have a headache!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You're not looking for sympathy here, are you??? Seriously, there is a pretty significant proportion of "wayward spouses" who behave in this manner post-discovery (and during recovery). God love each and every one of them. I wasn't so lucky. My wife isn't really repulsed by my touch so much as she's stuck with very little sexual drive, coupled with a really bad guilt complex on how "bad" sex is because of the affair. I'm not going to tell you that it makes "sense"---but this is an issue that she's slowly working on. If you couple that to a recent stroke that she had---it can be hard to get her "in the mood". Now I get the "not tonight dear---I have an angiogram scheduled for tomorrow". (Good news on the stroke is that there's nothing wrong with her that will require brain surgery; and that had been a serious concern).<P>So, as the eternal optimist, I take heart that my marriage, overall, is way better than it ever has been. Divorce is not an option for me. Separation really isn't either. If you take away the "punishment", you're left with creative ways to reestablish intimacy. It can be a slow process, but as I've said before, we're making some headway.<P>I'm no relation to the Harleys---although I've been accused more than once. I did counsel extensively with Steve (as you're probably aware), and I think I got out of the MarriageBuilder's Correspondence School with at least a "B" average. I completely agree with you: this is a terrific site with so much wonderful, free information. I just hang around here these days trying to help people who want to work on this material---trying to give them the benefit of my experiences.<P>Good luck on the birth of your son. Hey, with all the commotion with the doctor and nurses, I nearly DID get to deliver Noah...<P>Happy New Year!

Dear K,<P> Sorry to hear about your wifes' health problems. I can empathize somewhat. I'm 46, but I'm in pretty good shape. I've been a jock most of my young adult life.<P> I recently found out I'm hypertensive. No big deal, medication controls it. But when I found out, I felt really down, like I was defective or broken. I was also scared.<P> I hope your wife gets a clean bill of health very soon.<P> <BR> God bless you, <P>------------------<BR><P>Gregg

First Happy Birthday to little Noah! We just celebrated "G's" third birthday in November. Wow, they DO grow fast don't they? And I just want time to freeze because they are just the cutest they will EVER be in their entire lives. My heart just does flips whenever he says: "I love you, My Mommy" for no reason at all, in his little cute voice. Pure innocence and Pure LOVE! What a Joy!<P>Second, it's been forever that I've visited this site and had no idea about Jen's having a stroke. How freightening! Please give her my best and know that I will keep you all in my prayers.<P>I just wanted to add to all those men who feel that they can't love a child not of their own blood, let K as well as my H be an example to them ALL! These little guys seem to have been blessed with something very special and loving them is easy. And as K has said once before that my H echo's . . .he feels that of all his children, he seems to have a very special kind of love for the last. Perhaps it is out of a sense of protection knowing these children will need extra loving. In any regard, I thank God for blessing ME with such a beautiful child and especially for such a wonderful and loving H! <P>One more thing of importance I'd like to add. Please bear in mind that when we are struggling with our own thoughts and feelings in the matter of a child born out of wedlock, please remember this: We are the adults. No matter what is right or wrong, we have the emotional and mental capability to handle the situation. An innocent child does not. He will not think about what went on in his parents lives nor will he care. ALL that he will care about will be that he was loved and that he knows the truth. Plain and simple. I know as I speak from my own childhood experience as well as from observations of similar situations in my family and friends families.<BR>So please, above all else, and in all situations, please think of the innocent child and his feelings. <P>Best Wishes to everyone for a wonderful 2001!