gemini1:<P>1. Pick the zoloft out of the trash can and put some food in your stomach before swallowing another pill. (I'm on zoloft)<P>2. put the boob job off for awhile.<P>3. Damn, I am so sorry about your H being such a twit. Of course he is to blame for your son's breakdown. Everything you son fears is normal to fear. H's actions are destroying your son. He needs to hear from his dad a true sincere apology, which MUST be followed by actions geared toward recovering the father-son relationship. <P>4. Sorry about the OC, but evryone's concern now has to be for your own family, especially your son. This affair is devastating him. The "get over it" is bull****.<P><P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess

Belle,<P>I am going to start prozac soon. My Dr has me on anti-anxiety for now.(tranxene).<P>H DID apologize a million times. Things have been so much better around here since Sun. I know H know's he's responsible for our son's worries. He just showed the wrong emotions this Sunday. He apologized to Michael for that too.<P>We've been actually having normal family times now. Meds are helping my son. He's been back to counsler 2 x's and is on the road to feeling better. <P>Thanks Belle....<P>My surgery is for end of this mo. and can be postponed if need be. I will go through with it if things continue to go smoothly.<P>I need to do SOMETHING for ME... boobs are it!(not pam anderson, just something that resembles a woman...ha ha )<P>Son and I go to mass each morn. together after H goes to work. Son should be back to work by time my surgery takes place.<P> Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....

i have only recently found this web site and very thankful that i have. i too am going through the same thing. a little over 2 yrs ago my h had an affair which oc child was concieved. h has gone to court and had support and visitation set. we have 2 g's 1-11 and 1-5. h has told 11. he told her without all of the gorry details and explained to her that what he had done had hurt me very much and that we had alot of things to work out and work through but it had nothing to do with anything she had or had not done. he told 11 while they were alone together fishing. after telling her he called oc gps to see if ow was there. she was not so he took 11 to meet oc. the ow lives there but gps have been raising oc because ow had rather be out with friends or riding the roads. after visit with oc h and i sat down with 11 and told her we were both here for her and she could ask us anything or talk to us about anything she wanted and that we would answer any questions. the only thing she wanted to aske was "are you and daddy getting a divorce?". we both said "no" at the same time. we told her that this was something that we had to work out and work through but that it had nothing to do with anything she had or had or had not done. and we have both told ow he wants nothing else to do with her. now we have to tell 5. h has told the ow that he wants nothing else to do with her. but she will not let us alone. we have talked to our lawyer and he said now that we have gone through court that she has to let him see oc. he says that we can have it set up to where we meet on neutral grounds to see or pick up oc. as for her harrassing us we can take legal action against her. i do not know what we are goig to do. i am so glad that i found this site. it has given me a little light at te end of that very dark tunnel that i have been walking down. i hate to know that there are others in my shoes but somehow it gives me comfort to know that i "finally" have someone to talk to who really understands how i feel. thanks for listening. it means so much to me. i hope that i am doing the right things in this situation, who knows what the right or wrong thing is???? sorry that my letter has been so long but i am so very thankful that i have you guys to talk to. thanks for listening and any advise or opinions you have will be greatly appreciated!!!!