H & I had a 4-way meeting with our attorneys on Friday. I am trying desperately to stall this divorce, which H filed for. My attorney had a lot of questions to H about his business and the discussion between them go pretty heated. H wants to give me a rediculously low amount of money for support and alimony and also wants the house sold NOW because he can't afford it anymore. My attorney said she would not agree to selling the house until we agree on a realistic support amount. She has requested all of his business books, records , personal & business check registers. She said she will have an accountant go over everything and she will be in touch with an amount. I don't want to selll this house--it was our dream house that we bought 3 years ago. The funny thing is--if H was living in the house, he would be able to afford it. He can't stand the fact that I have not moved back home with my mother so that he could live there. After all, he did abandon me & the boys.<P>The topic go the joint custody that H wants and my attorney told his attorney that she will not agree to joint custody because she doesn't believe in it. Boy, was H p**** at that. My attorney said she is especially against it because H is involved with at woman with a voilent temper(H & OW had a huge fight about me calling last weekend and she was choking him--I heard everything because she must have thrown the phone and it hit redial--they don't know I heard).<P>I have been trying to be so nice and sweet lately(even though we're in Plan B), especially since hearing what a psycho b**** she is. Unfortunately, he told me Thurs that he is very happy & getting on with his life. I know H is very upset with Friday's meeting and it's all because of what and how my attorney was. Do you think this is considered a lovebuster? I'm not really sure how to act when I see him next. I feel like this is the beginning of the end and don't see any hope of it getting better.<P>This affair has been going on for a year now and he must really think he is in love with OW. She is so jealous, possessive, manipulative and nasty--the total oppisite of me. I can't see how it can last. I know she is only with him because of the money--that's the sad part. Do you think I should let him know that I heard their argument and show my concern in how he can live like that? Or, should I keep my mouth shut? I am going crazy waiting for him to wake up!!!<BR><p>[This message has been edited by jackie (edited September 05, 1999).]

I don't really have much in the way of suggestions, but in the state where I live, supposedly the courts discourage moving the children out of the family home if at all possible. <P>I am not sure it would do any good to tell him you know about the fight - he might get defensive about it, whereas now maybe he is concerned about her temper himself. <P>I read about a case in our state where both parents were ordered to stay in the same house until the younger child reached the age of majority, but I guess that was pretty unique.