cd collins, I was worried about you and how things turned out in court. I was hoping you had posted something about it but I didn't see anything. Things are about the same for me. OW called h today to see why he hadn't been to see OC. H told her that he had been spending well needed time with his w and g's. Needles to say she hit the roof. She told h that he didn't give a d about his son and that she thought he wanted to be apart of his life? H told her that now tht c and v papers had been filed he would be up there next weekend to pick OC up. OW wanted to know where he would be taking OC. H told her that was no concern of hers, while in his care he can take OC wherever he wants. Once again she told him that OC was not to be around me. H told her that legally now he can take OC wherever and around anyone and there was nothing she could do about it. She "bithched and gripped" until H finally just hung up. He said he is so tired of her bs. He even told her that she didn't care about the OC and that she should just sign over c to us or her p. That way she wouldn't have to worry about OC anymore. I don't understand how a woman could be so selfish and rather go out with friends than spend time with her child. All she wants is someone else to take care of him so that she can do whatever she wants. But then again they can't be much of a woman to do the things that they do. Let me know what you found out and how things are going for you. I am thinking of you and saying extra prayers.<P>------------------<BR>lost24

Dear Lost24,<BR>Thanks so much for your concern and especially for your prayers, but today we didn't actually go to court, we're just supposed to find out today what day we will be scheduled to go. I hope it's soon. This drragging on and on gets to me after a while.<BR>But I do have some news. Today i spent about an hour on the phone with ow's live-in boyfriend. They have been together for about 2 years now. In talking with him, I mentioned something about when the affair had gone on. He said, "What do you mean, the "affair"? It's only called an "affair" when one of the people are married." I said, yes, that's because my h was married to me at the time. He said, "No way. He was involved with my gf back then, ditched her when he found out she was pregnant, and met and married you right after." I told him that was bs, that we had been married for almost 4 years when ow came into the picture. Told him that ow definitely knew h was a mm because not only did we go out to eat with her (and I bought the meal) but that after I found out about the a, I went to her, explained that I was not going to divorce h, and asked her to back off for the sake of our marriage and our child. I tolf him that she laughed at me and refused to back off, and that it was over 2 months later that she got pregnant, so it's not like the marriage was a big surprise to her Here, for two years, ow has been feeding boyfriend a sob story about how the guy she dated got her pregnant than ran off to marry somebody else! He never knew that her child was the result of adultery or that she purposely got pregnant to a mm. he was dumbfounded. Said that when she got home from work they were going to have to have a sit-down talk about this. He said he always wondered how a guy could leave a girl pregnant and not be by her side during the pregnancy. I said, well now you know that my H COULD NOT be by her side because he did the right thing and fixed his marriage instead and was by the side of his pregnant wife, which is exactly where he belonged. All he could say was "you are absolutely right. I never had any idea that this is the way things were." So I think ow will have a pile of explaining to do when she gets home tonight. Finally, an ow gets tangled up in her own web of lies.<P>As for the court date, I'm still waiting to hear when it is. Hopefully will know by this evening.<BR>Thanks -cd<p>[This message has been edited by cdcollins (edited February 08, 2001).]

Dear Lost24,<BR>Thanks so much for your concern and especially for your prayers, but today we didn't actually go to court, we're just supposed to find out today what day we will be scheduled to go. I hope it's soon. This drragging on and on gets to me after a while.<BR>But I do have some news. Today i spent about an hour on the phone with ow's live-in boyfriend. They have been together for about 2 years now. In talking with him, I mentioned something about when the affair had gone on. He said, "What do you mean, the "affair"? It's only called an "affair" when one of the people are married." I said, yes, that's because my h was married to me at the time. He said, "No way. He was involved with my gf back then, ditched her when he found out she was pregnant, and met and married you right after." I told him that was bs, that we had been married for almost 4 years when ow came into the picture. Told him that ow definitely knew h was a mm because not only did we go out to eat with her (and I bought the meal) but that after I found out about the a, I went to her, explained that I was not going to divorce h, and asked her to back off for the sake of our marriage and our child. Told him that she refused, kept coming over to my house when I was working, and that it was at least 2MONTHS after that that she got pg. Here, for two years, ow has been feeding boyfriend a sob story about how the guy she dated got her pregnant than ran off to marry somebody else! He never knew that her child was the result of adultery or that she purposely got pregnant to a mm. he was dumbfounded. Said that when she got home from work they were going to have to have a sit-down talk about this. He said he always wondered how a guy could leave a girl pregnant and not be by her side during the pregnancy. I said, well now you know that my H COULD NOT be by her side because he did the right thing and fixed his marriage instead and was by the side of his pregnant wife, which is exactly where he belonged. All he could say was "you are absolutely right. I never had any idea that this is the way things were." So I think ow will have a pile of explaining to do when she gets home tonight. Finally, an ow gets tangled up in her own web of lies.<P>As for the court date, I'm still waiting to hear when it is. Hopefully will know by this evening.<BR>Thanks -cd

That is TOO FUNNY! Ha! I would LOVE to be the fly on that wall tonight. <P>Enjoy it! Carolyn

cd, Like they say what goes around comes around. Enjoy knowing that her time has finally come. Waiting for the legal system sis so hard. They seem to take their time in making court dates. If they had to live with it they would want to hurry up with the process. ggod luck and hope you hear something very soon. <P>------------------<BR>lost24

Oh, cd, what a wonderful post! It did my heart so much good to read your story. Ahhhhh. The vindication of it all...for all of us! <P>You know, don't you, that we all seem to get a lot of satisfaction from each other's victories. Every time one of our OW's gets her 'comeuppance', it is like a soothing balm on our old wounds.<P>Thanks again, cd, for sharing a greatly satisfying story. There is a God...<P>Hahahahahaha<P>Catnip =^^=

ditto on what catnip said!<BR><P>------------------<BR>happy_girl