I don't know when to shut the hell up . But seriously in the spirit of keeping our forum the way it should be I thought perhaps we should post about the other ladies of the forum. Who do you particularly respect? What qualities does that person have that you admire? What has someone said that really made an impact on you? Corny I know but necessary. We are all special and we should let each other know. So here I go<P>Catnip, a dear friend who has helped me get through so many difficult times. She has helped me many a time to put things in perspective. Her eloquence is amazing. I just love her <P>Heavenly who is "right on" so many times. Her sincerity shows through all her posts.<P>Flowerseed and Happy Girl for your never ending optimism. You guys are sweethearts, always there to express your happiness at others' posts. Always ready to give an encouraging word to those many down days we all have. <P>Zebrababy is cool. The way she handles her OW is not only brave but downright entertaining. You should be damn proud of yourself, I know I am.<P>CD you are another one whose posts really touch me. Not only are you intelligent but eloquent as all hell. There is no doubt in my mind that you couldn't be a lawyer and a good one at that. <P>To everyone else, the newbies as well, you are all a voice here and your posts effect me. It never ceases to amaze me that I care about a group of ladies I never met but I do. Yes I am the "candle lady", and I want you all to know that almost on a daily basis, a candle is burned for you, wishing you peace of mind, recovery, guidance and clarity.<P>God bless us all<BR>Lena<BR>

Lena , Thanks for the candles. I know I , and all of us could use them, and I appreciate all of your thoughts and prayers. I hope each of us finds peace and love within our marriages as we travel down these difficult roads. Since I have told noone of the A or OC, I desperately need your collective contacts, and that in itself has kept me waking up every day.Thanks to all.

Leelee,<P>I believe with all my heart in God's angels here on earth. You are definitely one.<P>You are so right, I have met so many great ladies (and gentlemen) here. (Guys, if you are lurking, don't be afraid to join in -- we still love ya!)<P>No matter what the future holds, this Forum will always be a special part of my life and I will carry every one here in my heart forever.<P>love<BR>- heavenly