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I wanted to ask you all for some prayers. <P>H and I are going through a really rough spot. All non-OW/OC related. It's all issues that caused the breakdown of our marriage in the first place. A lot of ugly stuff is coming to the surface. <P>I can't go into details because it's hard to put into words and I can't afford to get emotional right now. I have to keep a level head for my own santity.<P>I always thought my marriage was most threatened by the OW/OC, but now I know... it's threatened most by our inability to get passed deeper issues.<P>Pray for us ladies. We are going to need it.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Zebra,<BR>Prayers are with you and your family. We just went through some of the back sliding ourselves. One thing we all need to remember is not to forget the reasons that we got to where we are today. I think we get so caught up in oc&ow and such we forget to work on what brought us here in the first place. I made sure it didnt even get a chance to get started down that road again. Niped it right in the butt. with love flowerseed
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Dear Zebra,<P>Of course, my prayers are with you and your H at this difficult time. Through your posts here, we have come to know you as a very strong woman with an immeasurable amount of courage. I know you can work this thing through.<P>If you need any one on one consolation, don't hesitate to e-mail me at rosepell@ivillage.com. <P>You can weather this storm ...<P>love<BR>- heavenly
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Hey momma,<BR>I lit your candle and I prayed for your family. May God bless you with strength and guide you both to each other.<P>I am here for whatever you may need.<P>Love, <BR>Lena
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Zebra,<P>I am thinking of your and sending you prayers. I totally understand. In fact my husband and I were discussing that if things went bad, it would be still based on past problems that we can't get past. I am trying really hard.<P>babstr.
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Zebra, Hey girl, I had a feeling something was up, I have missed you around. I noticed you were not posting as much this past week and not been on computer or in chat room. I had been thinking of you and wondering what was up. Well I am at least glad to have read your post, to know that you are around and dealing with these issues. I will pray for peace and love to stay with you both, and for security and hapiness to enter and heal your lives. You are in my thougths, if you need anything please let me know. Gabi1116
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Dear Zebra,<BR>I will do just that. Pray. Just know every marriage has some "ugly stuff". I pray you work things through.<P>Debi<P>------------------<BR>Imagine....
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zebra,<P>Consider it done. I've been lurking forever and have reached the point that I feel I must join in....to give whatever I can and to receive the support I so desperately need from all of you.<P>You are in my prayers.<P>love, anniem
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Perhaps its time to go back into couples counseling. I still hope that will help us. For now we are dealing with OW/OC issues to see if we can agree and then move forward working on our marriage.I hope I can get that far, but believe with right therapist it can be helpful. I am in the mental health field myself, can give anyone tips on how to find a good therapist if you would like. You are in my thoughts, best wishes, I hope you and your husband make it through the storm.We all deserve peace, you too.
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Dear zebrababy,<BR>I will definitely be praying for you!<BR>with love,<BR>cdcollins
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Zebrababy.....praying for you babe! And your Husband. Sometimes we all need a little extra help from up above.<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>broken_wings
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thank you all for your prayers (and candles, btw, i'm catholic too, but go to baptist church with H).<P>we are still struggling. no real dialogue yet. just sortta at a stale mate. perhaps it's best to let things cool down before diving into discussion.<P>you don't know how warm it felt when i read all of your beautiful posts. i felt each and every one of your arms around me. what a wonderful cyber hug.<P>hoping to be back to my old posting self soon. in the meanwhile, you guys take good care of each other. i'll lurk some and chime in if i'm feeling it.<P>love you all,<P>------------------<BR>Zebra Baby ...<P>Lord, give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Dear Zebrababy,<P>You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers!<BR>The very best of luck!! Take care...
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