I've been checking out the posts here for a while, and actually e mailed the link to my wife, who has also read some of the material. It has really helped me quite a bit, but I need some advice from others in my situation.
Married 11 years, two kids, seperated in 9/02. I ran a business for ten years, which took a lot of time and energy, and lost it in 2000 and have debt remaining. I had a hard time after, and wife also,and she ended up having an affair with a coworker, which was the icing that led to seperation. Since, we've both probably experienced every emotion known, but really have had very little contact with each other. We can discuss anything regarding our kids, and are both very agreeable with most anything regarding the. BTW, custody is 50/50. I live in our home, and she moved to an apartment, where she lives alone. I'm pretty sure the affair was short lived, and had run it's course even before I found out about it.Now, we get along okay, and are basically pleasant to each other, but tension still arises when theres something important to discuss.
The reason I found this site, and emailed the link to my wife, was cause I have been feeling like we never really gave our marriage a chance to work. We never could communicate with each other over anything, each have different interests, and goals in life. We like everything different. Why do I still feel love for someone who is so different, and has hurt me so much? Why do I want to try to restore this marriage, and is it even a good idea? Am I gonna be the one to make sacrifices to make it work? Any insight from others would be greatly appreciated. BTW, the kids are 9 and 7. They have both handled this all really great- I'm sure though they'd love to see us all as a family again... me also....
Thanks
