Another one for all our backgrounds. I know, it's a lot to read, but it helps you understand where we are at, and our situations with the A, OC, OW, and in some cases, like mine, OM.<P>Tigger

Thanks, this really helps to get to know you all!!<P>I'm in Portland, Or.<BR>D-day 4 weeks ago, OW apprx 8 week PG.<BR>Married six years, have 3 y/o D.<P>I'm very new at this, but have found this forum to be incredibly helpful. You people are AMAZING, the strength here is unbelievable. It gives me hope....<P>God Bless you all!!!

I'm new to this, so please bear with me. I'm in Texas and thank God soon to be moving to a area which will be I believe over 6 hours of driving away from OW. Sorry My heart really bleeds for that, especially since OW doesn't have a vehicle and has to borrow mom's for groceries, and I believe work. Unfortunately, I believe that might change. It's been about three months since my husband told me. Three months since the OC was born on my B-day. My husband didn't want to tell me when I was pregnant (boy born about 6 mo ago) because he though I wouldn't take care of myself. He was right. I hardly ate or slept for the first couple of months. I isolated myself in my home for atleast 2 weeks. It was miserable. <P>AFter 2 weeks, I decided to meet with OW. I called her up. She called my husband to see if I still wanted to meet with her. STupid woman. When he told me about OW and OC, I agreed with him about taking responsibility for the little girl. I did tell him that I didn't think I could tolerate him going to visit over there. He came up with the compromise of bringing her to our home. That was fine. He told other woman about picking baby up, and she agreed. The night I called her to meet with her, he was going to pick up the little one. He called and she told him NO. As much as it pained me to say this, I told my husband that he should go over there and find out what was going on. He went and was gone less that 40 minutes. <P>the next day, I met with the other woman. She over-embellished,lied and was a b****. She told me he said he didn't love me and didn't know why he had married me. (That's the nice version). She also told me that they hadn't had sex just2 times. It had been three times. She said that my husband had told her everything we talked about. And that he would talk to her about everything. <BR>I didn't let her see my devestation. But I left there feeling miserable. I called my husband at work and sort of confronted him. She left there and went straight to his work to apoligize to him for breaking up his marriage. UGHHH!!!!!<P>We had a long heart to heart after he came back from work. He came clean with everything and why things had happened and gave me any detail I asked for. She knew what we had spoken about because the night before she insisted that he tell her what he had told me so that she could keep his story. YEah right. He realized how badly he had been manipulated by this woman. He didn't even talk to her or know her until after he found out she was pregnant. Then he did it to try to convince her to abort and to keep her from being a witch to me while I was pregnant (especially since I didn't know). She knew she got pregnant the 1st time but didn't tell him until afterward. <P>He hasn't seen her or the baby since then, except when she went to his work with her other child (also from a previuos adulterous affair)andtried to get him to see them. He ignored them. She has since been back to that work place when he is not there to flaunt his child and play the guess whose baby this is with that staff. We/he is waiting for the courts toset a date for cs. This really frightens me because I'm concerned about how much $ she'll get. They also told him that they don't have to go to court if both parties meet at the Attorney General's office and come to an agreement. He doesn't think she'll show if he asks her. I'm not sure if I should insist that he speak with her. As it is I live with the fear of what will she do next. <P>SORRY i've been soooo long winded<P><BR>[This message has been edited by IVC (edited May 19, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by IVC (edited May 22, 2001).]

Hi, I live in New York. I am new to this site, you ladies are great support. I have been married to my highschool sweetheart for 12 years, we have two children ages 10 and 9. Husband had an affair with a co-worker, this affair produce a child. I discover the affair and child by accident through his computer on November 2000. You can imagine my shock. When I found about the affair my husband end it the relationship with the ow.s OW and OC live about 1/2 hour from us. This past six months has been very strenuous to say the least. OW is totally a physco, trying to make our lives immpossible and H didn't help by lying to me, all along he was having contact with her through his cellular phone. I was deeply hurt and felt betray all over again. I think my H and I came to an understanding that there can't be any contact with OW,if he wants this marriage to work. I hope he has kept his promise. All contact with ow & oc should be made in court.

I in lower VA (KY border). Married 11 years with 2 small boys. I found out about the affair which was about 2 months old in June 2000. Then OW (also married) was pregnant right after 4th of July. We've struggled. In August H moved out w/ OW ( thinking it was the "right" thing to do). Lasted two weeks. OC (a girl) was born March. OW has went through "Child Enforcement" in KY and paternity test is today. <P>jessie

Hi ya'll<P>Married for 15 years WE have two daughters 13 & 16. There are 2 other children (boys 2 & 1). Had DNA test and they are H.<P>OW not the b***H from H**l, but close. OW did not want any cs from H, but thought that he would pay her under the table. NOT, if she want some then she will have to go back to court.<P>God Blessed!!

Also brought up for information and for cd.<P>- heavenly

Hi I'm from New York , Out on Long Island to be exact. My husband works in the Hamptons and working with all the "beautiful" people went to his head I think! Catnip - how did I think we both lived in NY?<BR> Kris

My Cross, IVC,Broke down, and everyone <P>WOW!!! What immature ows <BR>this is life not high school and they need to grow up and take care of their children<BR>Scary<P>the situation and fact are bad enough without immaturity

Quakermom...Because our OW lives on Long Island....the OPPOSITE end from the Hamptons...not far from the airport...so that's why you thought we were from NY.<P>Catnip =^^=

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