My sister is pregnant and the father wants nothing to do with her or the C. She is not an OW. He has another child with someone else and is the same way with her. I feel so bad for my little sis because of the way I feel about not forcing a man to have contact with C or to be a dad in any way. She asks me what she should do and I can't answer her. I say,"Leave him alone if that's the way he wants it". I know it hurts her, but I'm in the opposite situation. Where I don't want my H to have contact with his OC. He doesn't, but that is his choice, not mine. Does anyone know what advice I could give her? I know that this is a different situation than what we are all used to, but you have all helped me so much in the past week with advice and helping me to learn how to make it through this. If anyone knows of a web site she can visit? I would appreciate it very much

Hi Jessry,<BR>I can only say that she can't force the man to be in her child's life. The man gave her a clear indication of what kind of dad he was with his lack of responsibility with his first child. It is a sad situation but unfortunately the most she can get from the [censored] is child support. Has she decided to keep the baby? If she is keeping it then she has to know that she will be raising it alone. There is not much for you to say except that you are there and will help her with whatever she needs. God bless.

Short and Sweet...LeeLee said it well. Just be there for her bc that is a rough situation. If he grows up maybe he will come around, but tell her not to hold her breath.<P>Is he willing to help financially? Or will courts have to handle that?<P>Love and Prayers,<BR>bw

Thanks for the feed back! Yes, she is keeping the baby. She has been pregnant 3 or 4 times and had miscarriages everytime. This is the first one that she has been able to keep (she is only 22). My stepfather sat down with her when he found out (she was 3 1/2 months before she told him) and told her that they would help her but she was to have NO CONTACT with the father. No going for CS, nothing. (I wish the OW's dad would have done the same with her!). But, in a few years he will be coming into an inheritance of a million $. So, she'll probably get some of that cuz his parents are ashamed of the way he treated her. He moved her to LA (400 miles from me) and then decided he didn't want her anymore because she "wasn't fun since she got pregnant". (she was real heavy into drugs and quit as soon as she found out) and he would blow his whole paycheck on cocaine. (I know, he's a winner) So, I drove 8 hours to go get her and bring her to my mom's bc no one else would. She was staying with his parents and they actually cried when she left, they felt so bad. That's what puts me in such a awful postion about all this. He was taking responsibility, but then changed his mind. She calls me crying all the time. Hopefully, she will get over him (and her C won't look like him ). She is a beautiful woman and is so afraid she will never find a man to love her if she has a baby. HAH! Imagine that!