DONE!<P>[This message has been edited by carriemom (edited April 02, 2001).]<P>[This message has been edited by carriemom (edited April 03, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by carriemom (edited April 03, 2001).]

Hi Carrie,<P>I happen to be posting today also.<BR>I have gone through those empty feelings with my<BR>H. I think its normal because we loved them and<BR>trusted them to not hurt us. There were days where<BR>I missed my H all day but when he got home I couldnt<BR>look at him, talk to him, or acknowledge him.<BR>Then the next day I'd miss him even more. <BR>What has helped me is to see how dedicated he is to<BR>us. He patiently waits for things to get better.<BR>Sometimes he needs to listen and communicate more.<BR>He is tired of going over the details, and wants to<BR>put it behind us. But like you, the not knowing what's<BR>going to happen is a nightmare itself.<BR>The op in our situation has demanded money from my H<BR>but didnt want to do the DNA test. So she has crawled<BR>back under her rock for now. It also was a one- time<BR>mistake, didnt even use a bed.<BR>I wish I had advice for you. JUst remember that this<BR>too will pass, your H obviously loves you dearly.<BR>I think this is such a stressful ordeal that our bodies/<BR>minds just shut down once in awhile. <BR>Give it time and I'm sure you'll feel like yourself again.<BR>Good luck w/ the gyno-maybe you have PMDD. I swear I have<BR>it too. Going thru this just makes it worse.<BR>Take care and stay in touch!<P>

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Dear carriemom<BR>I think that your feelings are just on overload. They are just taking a break. It's like after you excercise, you gotta rest those muscles. I think it's just a phase. I get like that now and then myself. I think that it's just your body's way of letting you recoup emotionally.<P>Just take care of yourself and try to relax. <P>cdcollins

Carriemom,<P>Hi there! How have you been? Well I guess I see some of that, but I just wanted to let you know also that I think it is normal. I still do it and oc will be 2 in Oct. There are days, as Fluke mentioned, that he is gone and I think "gosh how I love him! I miss him sooooo much. I never tell him these things and what will I do if something happens to him on the way home and he doesnt know that I feel this way." Then when he gets home I am ok because I know he is alive and I rarely tell him how I feel. AS a matter of fact half the time when he gets home I do not feel anymore. Like you say its like nothing is there anymore. Its an overload and when you cant handle any more emotions you will shut them down. The bad thing about that is that a lot of the times the good feelings get shut down with the bad.<P>Love and Prayers<P>broken_wings