You're married to a mechanic too? I'm starting to feel like I have a twin out there -We are both named Donna, both married to grease monkeys, and we both live in PA. How odd is that?<P>We should really get together for lunch sometime - maybe meet in the middle somewhere between up here in North PA and down there by the md/de line. Like maybe route 150 somewhere (I think it's route 150 - I'm not real great at remembering road names).<P>cdcollins

Hi CDCollins,<P>Yeah I noticed we were both in PA. You probally mean<BR>I80, that cuts through the middle of our fine state.<BR>I lived for years in NCentral PA, its beautiful up there.<BR>Now we are in Mennonite/Amish country. I like it except<BR>for the OP living too close. We hope the place she rents<BR>will sell and she'll move on!<BR>One of the things that attracted me to my H was how<BR>hard working he seemed and that he ran his own business.<BR>I noticed right away that he didnt have those semi-naked<BR>calendars that so many shops have. I commented on that.<BR>My dad was also self-employed and I admired his tenacity.<BR>So one of my first thoughts (besides this guy is good -<BR>looking AND works hard) was how much I could do for him.<BR>From day one I knew I'd make him a good wife. I wanted <BR>to work with him, make his life easier. <BR>Now he tells me everyday that he's so happy we are married.<BR>But my finding comfort in this forum scares him a bit.<BR>He feels uncomfortable about my telling our secrets.<BR>I said I wouldnt even be here if you would have turned<BR>her down! We went thru a few sessions of counseling but<BR>that got expensive. I feel this is free therapy so I<BR>dont lose it completely. To know Im not alone!!! <BR>I probably wont be on again tonite but will check tomorrow.<BR>How about this summer? It's a few hour drive to I80 from<BR>here. Take care! <P>

My h gets a little edgy about me "telling secrets" here too, but he has come to realize that the more i work through here, the less grief he has to deal with.<P>This summer sounds great - if indeed summer ever comes. We are still getting snow up here. Do you believe that?<BR>cdcollins

Hi cd,<P>Even the kids are probably getting tired of the snow!<BR>Yes I cant wait til the weather breaks - we love getting<BR>out. Growing plants is therapy for me and keeps the kids<BR>busy.<BR>Since I've been posting here again I've noticed that<BR>I'm not as moody and angry. It was getting bad, I was<BR>soooo mad at her for the choices she made; at my h for<BR>what he did, at life for being so f***ed up. But I know<BR>in my heart that it can ALWAYS get worse so I'd better<BR>concentrate on what is good in my life before I lose that<BR>too!<BR>I still hate living with this knowledge and worry about<BR>the future, whether or not she will come after us for<BR>cs. She can if she does it the legal way and we will then<BR>fight for visitation. My h does not want anything to do<BR>with op or oc. I strongly feel that if we have to pay for<BR>oc then we will have a say in how he's raised or he will<BR>grow up to be yet another aimless, angry young man.<BR>We are trying our best to raise our kids with compassion,<BR>morals, and respect. This bullsh*t does not fit in the<BR>picture at all! But we'll make it work if she wants to<BR>be paid for being a wh*re. I told her that my H should<BR>have just given her 5 bucks when he was done and then<BR>she would have known what he truly thought of her.<BR>Instead an innocent life somehow came out of it...<BR>and the repurcussions on my children infuriate me.<BR>How do we prepare them for this? I still cant figure that<BR>one out. I hope we dont have too.<BR>Well just had to get that off my chest. Hope your little<BR>one isnt in much pain today. Good luck with your gram!