I am hoping to get some feedback on a hole I've dug myself into.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years and have always had a wonderful relationship. We have both had good, well paying jobs until I lost mine a little over a year ago. We have always, pretty much, split up expenses 50/50.

Well, I had accumulated a lot of debt (living expenses, paying off old bills....nothing extravagant but the debt is still substantial)and I made the bad decision to not tell my husband in hopes that I could take care of it on my own when I found a new job. I thought about telling him everyday but kept procrastinating because I felt that there would be a big blow up and emotionally I wasn't ready after losing job and dealing with the confusion and sadness over my career.

2 nights ago we went out to dinner and we had a few drinks and he asked me about my bills. I told him I didn't want to discuss this at the restaurant and we should wait until we got home. He was playful about the subject since he had a few drinks. We got home and I finally told him and his reaction has been increasingly getting worse. His trust is gone and he won't even look at me. He doesn't know if he will ever get over this. I've never done anything like this before, but I was embarrased, confused and wanted to sweep this under the rug. He's the most wonderful man in the world and I can't bear the fact that I've hurt him. I was always the one that he and everyone can trust.

Does anyone have any feedback on how to deal with this?

Thank you.

<small>[ June 25, 2003, 02:23 PM: Message edited by: gg123 ]</small>