HI! I am not familar with your story<BR>i read apost from you in another subject <BR>did you say that you too were separated when oc conceived??<BR>I was and just waiting for divorce to be final<BR>Do you think that makes a difference?<BR>We did get back together<BR>Do you guys see oc?<BR>I dont well, i do feel somewhat betrayed cuz i had no idea he had seen anyone and i dont think i ever owuld have know n had she not gotten pregnant<BR>he would come over in the middle of the night and crawl in bed with me he didn;t see her until after being out of the home 5 months supposedly it was a lke 2 week thing <BR>i had dates, well, actually i stood up a couple of guys realizing i wasnt ready. i certainly didn;'t go out and SLEEP with the first thing to come along<BR>i am having such a hard time <BR>do you feel any diferently more accepting of oc d/t it wasnt quite an affair?<BR>do you guys have to pay cs? have visitaion?

How are you? Well, we were separated for a year before he met ow. THree and a half months later ,they were living together.She came from another country to go to scholl,so she had no other place to go,He thought she was going to be a good time girl. She acted as if she was this liberal/ free spirit, looking for no ties. He thought they were going to be buddies that had sex.Well, she showed her true colors soon enough. My H also told her that we were having problems for YEARS,not true, He also told her that I wouldn't divorce him. Also not true.I filed for divorce after finding out about her.They lived together for 8 months ,about a mile and a half away from me and our 2 boys.He would stay with us for 3 or 4 nights per week because our boys thought that were friends and weren't living together. We had quite an intimate relationship the entire time . We went on dates and had PLENTY of great sex.All of which he lied to her about.<BR> He moved home after they were living togehter 8 months and with the knowledge thatr she was pregnant. I didn't find out until about 6 weeks later.Anyway ff to now.The oc is 18 months old .We have 3 boys and she is a girl. THey live about and hour and ahalf away.H sees her about once a month without me. I have little to do with the situation,not my choice.He pays her quite a bit of money every month.We have never been to court or had paternity test done,also not my choice.Ow calls h a lot on cell phone and at our business. She nver calls our house.I haven't seen or spoken to her in 10 months. W ehave been back together for over 2 years. Until h is open and honest about all aspects of that situation I will never feel right.As far as him seeing oc, I never had a doubt that he would.He is like thaT with our children.very devoted.

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Why do these girl change their minds then make OUR families pay the rest of our liveS???<BR>he hadnt heard from this girl for nearly amonth and wed gotten back together (and he too was seeing me the whole time we were separated) when she called and said she was preg and had an appt for an abortion <BR>she said she wanted nothing from him , no cs , and wanted all parental rights to herself<BR>DUH!!! why did she call him???<BR>Now she and i quote "want your money"<BR>AAAHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!<BR>AND she wants back suuport form the day it was born<BR>even though we had a letter rom a lawyer that we could not contact her <BR>and she wants to know hwy he never called after the baby was born <BR>which we saw in the paper<BR>after no contact for 6 months<BR>I KNOW THIS GIRL DOES NT REALLY WANT US IN HER LIFE<BR>FOREVER ANYMORE THAN WE WANT HER <BR>shes just being too selfish now to realize it!!!!!!!<BR>I just can t keep from asking GOD why why why????<BR>why <BR>she so got around why did it have to happen with MY MAN?????<BR>during a twoo week thing<BR>she said she was on the pill <BR>he said he used a condom<BR>Why do other people have miscarriages??? not her|???<BR>why wasn't it just a lie??? <BR>Im killing myself every waking minute of every day with these questions and trying to figure out waht i did <BR>to be so punishe din such a way???

When the ow in our case realized he wasn't going to play family with her, she tried to team up with me against my H. She said that we both know he will have another affair, so we should ban together to get what we deserve, finacially. She even said, "I want to be comfortable,don't you?" Icouldn't beleive this. She was serious. She vowed in front of many people that she would make him pay. SHe thinks she deserves everything I have because she has his child.Hello! THink again, snake. She even got infuriated when my h bought a new vehicle for me. She ranted and raved to one of our friends about how expensive the car was and look what she has to drive. SHe is alunatic. But, my h keeps on giving her a lot of unordered child support every month. And he puts up with her harrassment. But ,she is only here on a student visa. So when she is finished school, she has to go back home,far away.Six thousand miles away. I can't wait!