I am sure that many of you are like me. This horrible situation happened to you and you searched and searched for not only ANSWERS, but IDENTIFICATION. It was important to you to know that you weren't THE ONLY ONE! This can be the loneliest of times, trying to sort through the forest of lies, betrayal, hate, fear...ETC! I have been here for two days and in those two days I have found a sense of relief...relief that has taken a HUGE weight off of my shoulders...just to know that there are other's out there who have been through this and SURVIVED it. Our situations are very much alike......and very much different!!!! We all know that and recognize that. Some of us have chosen to accept the oc into our lives and other's of us have chosen not to. It's our choice... We are all passionately protective of OURSELVES now and our own children now! Maybe even more than we have ever been! We need love and support...all of us! We may not always agree with the different roads that each of us takes, but it is our RIGHT to take those different roads, and we each deserve the respect of EVERYONE around us...on here, and in our daily lives...just for finding a way to SURVIVE! No matter what, we are all very adament about the positions we've chosen to take, as we should be! Our purpose here is to show love and understanding...all of these things that I have experienced in 100 FOLD in TWO DAYS! I think we all have gotten...and are still getting...criticism from other forces in our lives for making some of the choices we've made...so let's not subject ourselves to the same here...in this very necessary place....a safe haven! As a new member, who is in a very bad place in my life right now, I implore us all to look at the purpose of this and stop the fighting here....because it's only making everyone feel bad. I think we all have enough fighting, stress and tension in our lives...don't you agree???? The focus is on support....getting support and giving support. Period! No, I am not running for public office! <P>

well said fightingirish. i hope that soon our forum will be what it usually is. we all have different opinions, which sometimes cause some tension here. but this recent one is from outside forces that have no business being here. all families disagree (and we are like a family), which is what happens here sometimes. but this is not a family disagreement. these are outsiders trying hard to ruin the family we have here. we can't let it happen. <P>my only request is that we ignore posters whose posts are obviously meant to provoke us. like someone said earlier, it has worked before in the past, it will work now. <P>prayers that we can get back to what this forum is all about. <P>happy_girl

Hey Irish and happy-girl,<P> I sure don't take those two seriously. After hearing what they have to say, how could anyone take them seriously? They're just blowin' smoke!<P><BR> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

are you a night owl too?? what time is it where you are? it is only 11:23 here.<P>i don't take them seriously, but i find it disruptive to the forum. i guess i am overprotective of my "family".<P>happy_girl

Hey happy,<P> It's almost 1:30 here, got tired of staring at the ceiling. I used to be out partying at this time of night, now I just sit in my rocking chair with my shawl, typing slowly on the computer.<P><BR> It's so sad!<P><BR> God bless you,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

I used to rock and roll all night, and party every day,***********************and now it's every other day.<P><BR> sigh,<P>------------------<BR>Gregg

a shawl? in a rocking chair?? you are starting to sound like my grandma... <P>i have always been a night owl. look forward to working those 7p-7a shifts.<P>happy_girl

Hey happy RN, <P> I've been doin' it for fifteen years, and I'm still not used to it.<P><BR> God bless you,<P> <P>------------------<BR>Gregg

Irish,<BR>Very well said, I can see you will also will be one to do great things with the blow that you have been delt. with love flowerseed