does independent behavior always mean a marriage is going south?

<small>[ July 15, 2003, 11:20 AM: Message edited by: in8600 ]</small>

Depends on what you are talking about. Developing independent lives and behaving and making decisions as if your spouse does not exist are never good things.

This explains what happens.

Why Women Leave Men

That is true it just depends on what you mean exactly by independent behavior. You can still live your own life with your interests and such but you also live it with your spouse. I feel you don't have to revolve yourself around your marriage totally. Your life is what makes you the person you are.

My H and I do what we like to do still without a single problem. I like going out on occasions like around once a month. He on the other hand doesn't like going out so he does not mind at all and I give him not one single reason not to trust me when I do go out. He does triathlons and I do not. Although I will go to most of them I do not go to all of them. We have separate checking accounts and yet we can transfer back and forth if we need to which is mostly him doing that since he handles the bills. lol There are many different things we don't do together constantly.

You need to be more specific in order for a good reply back though. So tell us how you mean exactly. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />