Hon, I want to let you know how much I admire you for the spunk you are showing, even through your pain.<P>Now, here's a thought for you:<P> Those hurtful, hateful posts addressed to and about you may actually be a blessing. Yes, a blessing!<P> Think about it. If everything is so peachy-keen in a certain party's life, why bother with yours? I'll tell you why: It's because she thinks the peachy-keeness of her life depends on either your H leaving you or your kicking him out. Now, since it seems that your H wants his marriage to you, she is trying to make you kick him out! If she was really your H's OW and if she REALLY had proof of any of her allegations, don't you think she would have sent them to you by now?<P> So, I think you should just thank her sweetly and keep right on trying to work things out with your H and working on your marriage. She doesn't really matter; judging from her posts, she's already lost (whoever's husband) and she knows it. Just let her simmer in her own juices. <BR>

absolutely correct Lady with a clue . She is showing you your progress and that what your hubby is telling you is true. She is pissed because things are not going her way and she is the LOSER....again! Keep your head up

Lady Clueless, and Lee Lee I totally agree with you both. This definitly looks like the purpose of the posts. If a certain party can get Isb to get mad enough to kick her h out then her mission will be acomplished. Do not let the ow win. This has always been my life policy since discovery of oc. My ow blackmailed, threatened, and even went as far as to date my h best friend and he was the best man in our wedding. Nothing worked and nothing the ow did made my h leave me. So as a last effort she wrote me a letter of introduction and left it at the business I owned and operated, the letter was full of lies about how much my h loved her and the oc, and even though he never saw them as she said he still loved then and she was only telling me all this to make me see the kind of man I was married to. She wanted me to now what a horrible father and husband my h was. I have known my h for eight years and we have two beautiful children this silly attempt at trying to fill me with enough anger to kick my h out did not work. I know he made a mistake and I know the results of his actions, but I also knew that her letter was full of lies and I refused to let her win. She wanted so badly for my h to leave me that she would have tried anything. She told my h and many of his friends that she would stop at nothing to ruin his life if he did not want her. And this is all over a one night stand. Remember the movie Fatal Attraction, with Glenn Close and Micheal Douglas???Do not buy into these weak attempts by the ow to get to you!!!Do not let her win. I have been able to get through so much with this thought always in my head. Best wishes, stay well, peace and happiness to you, Gabi1116

LSB, i agree too! and i think that the way you have handled this OW is to be admired. we definitely know who is the lady, and who is the tramp....<P>happy_girl<p>[This message has been edited by happy_girl (edited April 23, 2001).]