I followed the link in your signature line about Carol and the 180. I'm intrigued by her method and I'm going to check out the book, Divorce Busters. Her situation sounds a lot like mine, except I don't think there's any kind of affair involved, EA or PA. If there is, I certainly haven't been able to find any evidence of it. But my husband and I have been separated 4 months now. He does act like he wants us to get back together eventually, but in some ways he also acts like Carol's husband was. Here's my question, isn't what Carol did very dishonest behavior? Obviously what she did goes against the PORH. My husband and I haven't gotten that far yet, but I still don't know how comfortable I am with the prospect of misleading him so much. Isn't there any concern that when it's all said and done, he'll be so convinced that his wife dated other guys that she'll never be able to convince him she didn't? Like to hear your thoughts on this.

jen

<small>[ July 31, 2003, 09:34 AM: Message edited by: jenateare ]</small>